Don’t get me wrong
My time in Pakistan has been just wonderful.
I left London for one and only one reason, my parents are alone and I should go and spend quality time with them. Today it dawned upon me that my conviction was as strong as Moses saying there is “ only one God” but with my parents …it’s a different story.
Right now they are enjoying a meal with one of my siblings family …and I am ONCE AGAIN alone in front of the computer drinking beer…
A salmon strives to reach the place where it was born, just to be eaten by the bear’s….
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Right now they are enjoying a meal with one of my siblings family …and I am ONCE AGAIN alone in front of the computer drinking beer…….
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so what is the issue here
1) were you not invited
2) did they accept your sibling's invitation over yours
3) do you want them to spend every minute of free time with you?
if they insisted on being with you all the time or forcing you to go with them whereever they go, you will be screaming for personal space.
you feel ignored..people are having dinner and they forgot to call you :)
yaaaar...maybe they thought u needed space, maybe they want their son to be bay takkaluf and be familiar with routines of the house, when is dinner..
why are you being a sour puss and sitting away from your family..
..maybe they did not call you because you should have been there, and they thought u probably had good reasons to not be there so why bother you and were letting u have your space.
I have gripes aginst my folks too from time to time..but dunn get too stressed out over this bhai..
Quit acting like you’re doing your parents a favour by returning to Pakistan, I’m sure they’d rather you have stayed in England then move back to Pakistan and make them feel like they were burdening you. From what you’ve said, it sounds like you’re causing more heartache by living in Pakistan then you did whilst living in England.
I’m not criticising your decision to drink sharab (that’s entirely your choice) but please try to respect the rules of the house in which you live.
I opened this thread in general just for one reason (without going into details) that the logic for coming back home should be strong and well evaluated b4 hand. So that when u come back home and dont find things they way u imagined them to be you should still remain steadfast on ur decision.
Funny though, some narrow minded ppl missed the point completely and just zeroed in on the word “Beer”
Now that the thread is moved to H&R I am bound to give personal details but I wont.
Mat:The only six pack I have is on my tummy.
soba I am not as twisted as u perceive me to be…give me some sober sobi advice rather then gober gobi…btw: I never said we had an issue over the rules of the house .J
hey maybe the dinner was a last minute thing :k: these kinda things happen alot dont let it get to u
and u shouldnt hide ure feelings be straight with them that always works, dont think such negative things no matter what ure parents could never do anything like that on purpose
look PKC…maybe you should try BEING with them…you know not just physically…maybe they think you feel out of place with them…don’t feel soo bad about it…happens with a LOT of us…you’ve been away for a while so maybe they haven’t “adjusted” to you yet…join in thier “fun” and “dinner”…don’t wait to be asked..coz you’re family..not a guest…be a part of it..in fact be the cause of it..invlove everyone and in that way you’ll be invloved too
anytime, or if u want to chat on msn or gs chat, sure, anyway i can help.
we have all made choices and decisions in our lives and wonder about it. some you can change, some you cant undo and some are just hard to change.
I suppose it does hurt when u give a higher weight to others in your decision making, and they do not acknowledge it, do not see it, or dont look at it as if you did sacrifice part of your perspective or want to give them a more weight. but that is family for you.
Now you are on teh spot with people really evaluating their decisions before making them, and making them for the right reasons. People often are hasty and would let emotions dictate their decision. That said, you can not make all decisions just by using logic, or using logic as the only basis.
How much of it is also what one thinks things would be like versus reality..with every decision..reality is different, and could be better than expected or not as good, or just different. That does not mean we back off and not pursue the decision we made just because of a few setbacks or because the picture is not exactly how u imagined it to be.
I have made some decisions where things were nto what I expected them to be, but i recognized that the difference was simply not enough for me to back off on my decisions or path. and there were times where i made a decision and later realized i had started on a patrh i did not want to be on and changed my course. happened with my first choice of major (computer engineering) and my move to pakistan after undergrad.
simply put,
dont make hasty decisions, use logic as a guide but dont let that be the only deciding factor
realize that reality and what you thought things would be like ..are going to be different. how different theya re would determine your course of action…stick it out, dont back off at the first bump in the road..but keep your eyes open..if there are more bumps ahead, and thats more than you had bargained for…back away, change your course.
3)when u do back off..dont do it in a hasty manner..refer to point #1
I have seen people make one hasty decision,a nd then back off and go on a rebound and make another hasty decision just to get out of the situation theya re in..and often it ends in from one set of undesireable circumstances to another..
altough we disagree on some points, you have a good head on your shoulders and I am not sure how much help I can be, but if i can be any help, dont hestitate to let me know.
My visa says …
Visa granted by ICD.
from 10th december 1999
to 10th december 2004.
PS: send me ur mailing address I will send u a photocopy.
so boss next time u want to be sarcastic , do me a favour ..Please Sup…
cheers.
fraudiay …
I will give u an answer as soon as I find time.
PS: please tell me Boss is not ur other nick.
i am sorry but my parents would be disgusted with me and probably would not accept me… like urs 
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