do u feel like ur mil treats u like a step-mother and ur sil treats u like a step-sister?..pleez be honest..can u sit with them and joke around and stuff and feel the love like u can with ur own mother and sister?
give examples of times/situations where what mil and or sil did or how reacted that made u feel like they dont treat u like a family member…
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A better topic would've been "Give examples of times/situations where what MIL and/or SIL did or how they reacted made you feel like they do treat you like a family member"**.
**Not to bash you Soni27, but I am sick and tired of these negative topics in life forum these days. I think we need to discuss/point out the positivity in these relations to make things better. Ignore the negative stuff and let's focus on the positives and look forward to good times.
hmmm so far I never came across anything like that (not married yet just engaged) and I hope I never have to experience anything like that where I feel like I'm being treated as a step daughter or sister......
Yes I do joke around with....but I don't think it can get as close as you are with ur own sisters and in some relationships it good to keep some distance but mother in law yes if she's nice and you're nice then you both can have a real mother daughter relationship takes a lot of patience though!
A better topic would've been "Give examples of times/situations where what MIL and/or SIL did or how they reacted made you feel like they do treat you like a family member"*. *
Not to bash you Soni27, but I am sick and tired of these negative topics in life forum these days. I think we need to discuss/point out the positivity in these relations to make things better. Ignore the negative stuff and let's focus on the positives and look forward to good times.
I agree.
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Honestly what's with women and all these negative threads about MIL, SIL, BIL. And only women have problems with their in laws.
kyun kay humara maashra fully inspired hai indian culture say thats y....
im sick of all these in law threads... already i hate them, but now i really really hate them a lot!!!!
its simple: the MIL can never ever be ur mother, shes always brainwashing her son! and is too proud to being herself to a level where u can talk n joke with her!
the SIL: can never be ur sis, as we both are in competition
Mmh my MIL and FIL always take my side and very rarely my hubby's side (he's jealous sometimes, saying "mom n dad mere hain or side apki hi lete rehte ha"
Once I was ill and was not talking and MIL and FIL thought it was because we had a fight (hubby n me and that's y we weren't talkin) and they started to bawl at him and I was like "No we didn't have a fight I just have a headache" Poor hubby! But it's the same thing with my parents! They always take his side not mine. So it's all fair :-)
Honestly what's with women and all these negative threads about MIL, SIL, BIL. And only women have problems with their in laws.
bcause its women who has to live with them, men dont live with their MIL, FIL, etc. so they dont have to deal with kind of situation that most of the women go through. Its not men who r under scrunity all the time. I dont think that men can realise how it feels when u r not given freedom to do things yur own way. MIL r controlling freeks(sorry for wording , but this is right way to express it), is any husband affected by this , no. i know so many stories around me about these MIL. Also i must mention there r cases where DIL r being bad by not treating their inlaws with the respect they desrve.
i know there r many families/MIL who give respect to their DIL and recieve respect in return. This is the right way, and really those DIL r lucky to have such MIL. and i must say in any joint family where there is peace and happiness credit goes to both sides.
Note: dont think that i have such MIL, my MIL thanks GOD is very sensible lady.
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alhamdullillah..........i have no sis and SIL n my MIL is very cooperative, mashallah. i m a bari bahoo, frm a bari family in a bari( status wise) family.....so no ghar kam....no fuss alhamdullilah.coZ i think ghar k kaamon se he zayada ter laraiyan hoti hein.
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I think people need to have their seperate spaces, that's the only way to keep the inevitable MIL/DIL fights from happening..well at least minimize them. What about cases where the MIL does not interfere at all, but the DIL feels the need to still cause drama.