Re: Liking a chick?
I think you should definitely meet this girl in-person at least once before saying no. You’re not super attracted to her but you don’t find her unattractive either and her personality/background is acceptable. Just see if you feel anything else when you meet her in-person. If not, at least you know you did everything you could to make it work.
I don’t think you should settle. It’s not like you’re about to turn 40 and need to get married/have a family asap. You’re still young and have time.
Besides, what exactly are YOUR criterias for a nice wife? Physical attraction, education, religion are obvious ones but does she also have to be Pakistani? Because if you’re only willing to marry a Pakistani girl that must check all these criterias, then yes, it will be more difficult/time-consuming to find someone. Thus, you should seriously think about and have a discussion with your mom regarding what criterias are a must-have for YOU when choosing a wife and what criterias are negotiable.
For what it’s worth, my husband did not take my breath away when I met him years ago. I chose to go out on a first date with him because he was a nice guy. There really wasn’t a whole lot of physical attraction there. Like you, I thought he was ok…not ugly but not a guy who would make me do a double-take. There more I got to know him in the upcoming weeks/months, the more I liked him because I felt we were compatible in our values/lifestyle etc. And here I am years later…married to him. I have no regrets.
My criteria is basically physical attraction - which does not always equal gori or pretty; I like more the one that have personality, outspoken, outgoing, fashionable, religious but not very. One that works. I don’t really care about if she is a doctor or not but my mom seems to think so. Someone preferably from here and yes Pakistani I suppose.
I just don’t wanna settle because its a lifetime commitment!