that what people think about it....but here mostly unmarrie d ppl are having chaskas and making plans then any sensible respond..but yes few replies were fine...
i know its personal preference and comfort level...
If you ALREADY KNOW that there is no right or wrong answer and that what happens in your intimate life is based on personal preference and comfort level.................then you should be prepared for a variety of responses........even the chaska-type.
The type/quality of answers that you get ALSO DEPENDS on the type of question you ask, Suhaina.
Generalized stance:
Like most, I like to see what I am eating to satisfy the hunger for food. Hunger for sex is categorized same as hunger for food so it is only human and logical to see what you are satisfying your hunger for sex with.
Religious Stance:
The husband and wife can be naked in front of each other. However, Islam urges human beings to observe haya' or modesty.
Allah has called each spouse a garment for the other (2:187), and the purpose of garments is decency. (Subhan Allah)
When you are actually with your husband............you both will go with the flow and determine whether lights on or lights off is the best method for the BOTH of you as a couple.
You can get all these suggestions but every couple is different and in the end you will do what suits you and your husband the best.
Quite surprising coming from an unmarried woman...
1) Do what ever you like so long as its not anal and not times of menstration.
2) As RC said, try to keep your hayaa, but it doesnt mean that exploring is not right, do it. Although it has come in hadith with referance to (Hidaaya) Islamic shariah book, where a hadith has come that looking at your partners privates for a prolonged period of time may weaken your eyesight. but it doesnt clearly say that to NOT look.
3) Lights on or off, its upto the couple, but if lights are on, its hard to avoid the details.
4) Do what ever Rocks your boat. Although, Night shift is more preferred for the job, but if a person cannot not controll his/her hunger then there is no stopping you from doing a day shift.
5) like Ps said, what ever you feel comfortable with, *this is where if one party doesnt feel upto to it that the lights are left on then that needs to be discussed with the other party and vice versa, DONOT stay quiet about it. End of the day, its not just the man who is fulfilling his desire but the woman also has it, so both need to be aware of each others needs.
6) erm what else... ask away :p
7) i iknew i missed something, yehh its come in hadith to cover yourself even with a thin sheet while your at the job, because it shows you have pardah from the angels who are on your right and left shoulders. and also a sense of Hayaa in the eyes of Allah Almighty even though nothing is hidden from Allah. but cos the bodies are fully / may be naked, its best to have a sheet over you.
