Once upon a time, long long time ago, in a land far far away, women would go to their maika and complain about their husbands/in-laws/neighbours/doodh wala etc. The sisters at maika would co-ordinate those visits and compare notes and conclude that mother-in-law is the most evil creature every to have roamed this planet and sister-in-law is a five headed snake in disguise.
They would receive advice from sisters, cousins, mothers, friends after related one-sided accounts of how misery was thrust upon them from the day they said ‘qabool hai’. They would often exaggerate the stories to compete in most-evil-in-laws-tournament. When back to their ‘susral’ they were armed with ‘advice’ and anecdotes for dealing with the evil ones. Many a households became dysfunctional group of people living under one roof after successful application of such advice from the maika.
In a way, is life1 acting like a virtual maika? We generate ‘advice’ and pass judgments having heard one side of the story. I am scared to think a situation where a person really adopts a line of action often proposed here.
You are so right. Life1 is a virtual maika for women. If women would start adopting the lines of action often proposed here, they would soon end up in divorces. Allah Swt has given us our share of intelligence and stupidity and we should use our mind when dealing with people in our lives and don't just blindly act on advises of people (here on GS or from anywhere) because the person dealing with the situation is the best person to judge the situation and even people like mother, sisters, brothers cannot provide the best of the advises. Taking advises from people around can help us understand different perspective and we should be able to understand that ultimately the person in question is the best person to take the decision in any tough situation and blindly following anyone's advice in life is not at all a good idea.
lol yes it is. Such an amusing thought anyway. I hope people take the bunch of advices given here only as a perspective and not a line of action. And this is what the L1ians try to offer anyway. I dont honestly think someone wants to let their aggressions and frustrations go on here on the expense of others and bash-bash them. The point however is the same: discussion and coming to a wider and better perspective.
Only the one who is going through a difficult phase in life knows the pain. This place serve as a support system to many. There are some members here esp male members who call this wrong and actively take part in bashing women they don't know (how fair is this ?). True there is always other side of the story but there is also something called benefit of doubt. You don't know what the person is going through , sometimes you need perspective of people you don't know and who are not your family and friends to understand the situation.