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No one here who said annything about adopting kids will do that :)
It s just something that crossed your minds.
And then the bad excuses about my moms and dads who said that its not apreciated in out culture.
:)
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*Originally posted by Nilu: *
Im married about 6 years and i dont have kids
not yet, but i really want have them.
Ab dekho ke mei pregnant hoti hoon ya nahi.
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Nilu,
are you sure the reason why you are not getting pregnant is with you ? It could also be the husband you know...Have you seeked help from doctors ? What do they say ? I hope you can be blessed soon.
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*Originally posted by Diva4U: *
Nilu,
are you sure the reason why you are not getting pregnant is with you ? It could also be the husband you know...Have you seeked help from doctors ? What do they say ? I hope you can be blessed soon.
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Hi Diva.
Ya i go to the doctor and he said to me i can get pregnant
and concern my husband he is fine.
I also hope that i will get pregnant soon.
And thanks for that u hope that i will blessed soon.
Diva ur married?
The meaning of not wanting kids (Specially in our Indian/Pakistani Culture) means Cant have kids.
And no its not a Myth, I personally know a couple who were for ever saying they didnt want kids (Like 15 years), and then eventually one fine day they announce their pregnancy.
Believe you me they were grinning from ear to ear.
Eventually they confessed they had problems concieving, and hence had to put up a false facade to save embarassment from their families.
You folks know how harsh a Mother in Law can be if the Bahu dosent produce a Heir within the first year of marriage.
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*Originally posted by Nilu: *
Im married about 6 years and i dont have kids
not yet, but i really want have them.
Ab dekho ke mei pregnant hoti hoon ya nahi.
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I dont want to be intrusive, and if you feel my question does not deserve an answer, I can completely understand.
Are you and your Husband Cousins???
i love kids a lot....
but then they grow up :(
Why would you call it a ‘cop-out’. The guy has valid reasons…It’s not his obligation to have kids or is it?
Yes, Aleezay, I know of several people.
Until 25, I too, used to think that I should be a cookie under the cutter of the social pressure.
Then one day, I decided this self-imposed punishment is not for me. People who disagree think it's selfish. I think it is selfish to bring someone into this world, just because you think they will take care of you in the old age.
If you think you won’t be a good parent, won’t be able provide the basic needs, know what problems are carried in your DNA, then surely, there is no need to breed like rodents.
The machines do all the work for us – the contemporary young generation mind is one big devils’ workshop. We (humans) are the most dangerous animal and we’re over populated – we think the planet is just for us. I am not saying most people must agree with me, but if a few did, the world might be a better place.
Nilu baji, our prayers are with u, inshallah u will soon become a mummy 
Thank u Sweety 
Okay i hav anuther question... wut if u decide not to hav kids.. how the hell u gonna explain this to your family?!?! specially when your parents can't wait to see your kids playing all over them?
another point is, as sumone above already said that basically the reason behind the decision of not having kids is that the couple cannot hav kids for some problem... how can they cope with the problem or deal with their inlaws?
if the inlaws and parents are mature enuff, im sure they’ll understand that having kids is not so easy peasy…
there are a lot of couples who have problems with conceiving.. maybe they should consult ivf people :k:
I love kids :love: i think thoese who don’t want kids are psyco:-|
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*Originally posted by Aleezay: *
another point is, as sumone above already said that basically the reason behind the decision of not having kids is that the couple cannot hav kids for some problem... how can they cope with the problem or deal with their inlaws?
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Allah knows best :whistling