life style and house hold chores before marriage and after marriage

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aoa. hope all r fine

i dont know…which is most suitable forum for this post,

my question is , what was your life style ( sleep routine etc ) before marriage,

which house chores u do before marriage and after marriage..///////

u do all chores alone after marriage???

thanx in advance

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Hi TARA,

Before Shadi, I was chore. After shadi, I do chores. :(

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I did my own chores before marriage (except cook), now my husband and I split the work.

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I moved out after graduating college and lived with a roommate for a few years and then lived alone for a few years. I was living alone when I met my husband so I was doing 100% of the house chores.

Since getting married, my husband does most of the cooking (my "cooking" is limited to making salads and sandwiches). I do all the laundry/ironing/folding clothes and dishes because my husband hates doing it. I do grocery shopping 90% of the times. My husband will go grocery shopping if I'm really busy with work or feeling sick. We both clean up after ourselves around the house so that's not an issue. We take turns taking the trash out (we don't really keep track; if I see trash full I take it out; if he sees it full he takes it out).

And we have a maid that comes in once a month to clean all the floors, deep clean bathrooms etc. I will usually sweep the floor 1-2 times in between the maid's visits. But if for some reason I'm really slammed with work and the floor looks dirty, and my husband has time, he will sweep if I ask him too.

Bottom line: It's all about helping each other out b/c marriage is a partnership. If both spouses are working, then I don't see any reason for one spouse to do all the chores.

P.S. My husband moved out of his parents home at 18 in order to go to college at a different state and continued living on his own through medical school/residency/fellowship. So he is very capable of doing house chores because he didn't have mommy picking up after him until he got married. :D

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It depends upon the type of set up you are living in and where. Obviously in Pakistan, most people can afford maids and they come in every day. If you have a relationship where one spouse works outside the house and the other doesn't, then its natural to have the non working one pick up most of the housework burden. If living in a joint family with multiple women then its natural to divide chores and household work.

I didn't do as much housework before marriage as I do now. You will find that a common theme in most desi households. The simple reason in my case was that my mom saw herself as the head of the household and wanted to manage things her way and do most work herself.

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Before marriage, I used to wake up b/w 12 pm-1 pm. After marriage I am up b/w 6-7 am.

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^ lol its the opposite for me Noor. Before marriage i used to wake up around 7 or 8am. Now i wake up between 11am-12pm

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I didn’t do much before marriage, mum did most of the stuff and now I feel bad about it. Wish now I actually did more to help her. :frowning:

After marriage, gotta do most things, but hubby helps especially when I’m not feeling well. I still kind of have to supervise things like laundry to make sure it gets done properly or make sure he cleaned up after cooking. :rotfl:

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I recently got married and I'm still trying to get my routine together with working f/t. So far, I'm doing the cleaning, washing, hubby does his share as well like the cleaning and washing the dishes. Cooking is a mixture of me and my mum supplying us food .... lol

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we're both up at 5:30. same working hours + a toddler and another on the way.
I pack lunches for him and make dinner.
We take turns doing dishes. He does laundry
We also have a maid come in every other week for cleaning...

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I'm glad I'm not the only one who can't cook! LOL.. Hubby is the cook in our house too.

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life style and house hold chores before marriage and after marriage

I used to cook before marriage but after marriage I do laundry, cleaning(every other day maid is on chutti), cooking, ironing everything. Life has become so exhausting.