Life-Partner vs Career

[hanibal]

Re: Life-Partner vs Career

@mirage

As far as the topic is concerned. Women would secure their job more than their marital relation because, work is their financial security. They can atleast survive financially when working. If anyone sees that there is no room in the relationship to work, and they are not getting anything from it (peace of mind, especially) why would they kill themselves to keep the relationship. Women in the past were more persistent because they had more pressure of the society and financial dependence as well.

Women of the past! let us see what a average women of country-side use to ( in most villages still doing it) call house-hold chores!!!

1. They use to wakeup before sun rise, they had to clean the cattle-yard, milk them and then prepare the break-fast…
2. Do the normal house cleaning
3. prepare the food and send it to their husband/brothers/father working in the field
4. In some cases, go out to work as maid in other houses or work in the fields
5. manage household
6. take-care of the sick and children
7. milk the animal again if male member is not there
8. prepare beds for every one
9. sleep when every one has gone to bed

Today’s women ( married and career oriented)

1. 1st one to wakeup in the house
2. Prepare breakfast for everyone
3. Send kids to school ( or drive them there)
4. prepare for the office and send hubby to the office
5. in some cases, prepare lunch/dinner before leaving the house
6. office chores
7. helping kids with their homework
8. managing household
9. preparing clothes for the next work day

Now i personally think that women of past was oppressed and women of today is no different…

When married, husband and wife should be one entity, they should think like WE/US and not I/ME, both should do their duties, Husband should be able to provide whereas, women should take-care of household and kids ( i have personal believe that managing a household and raising/managing kids is more difficult to run a 100+ employee office and i normally thanks my wife for managing it so well), her role is like a coach, who do not win the matches but who prepare the personals to win it!!! now if the coach is busy working 3/4 jobs, then when is he going to train the team???

I agree on the part that there are some situations which cannot be worked out and it is best solution is to separate the couple… that is why we have divorce to start with… but it is not recommended to let go such thing without putting a fight… ( unless spouse is abusive )