Re: Life of a Widow
why does people consider it sin?
May be because they think the wife was not LOYAL enough with the husband that she should had been sad and away from her life after the death of her husband. Its because the woman has to prove her loyalty to her husband even after his death and being normal might get people think that she is not depressed after her husband's death and she was not loyal to him.
Re: Life of a Widow
I guess it's kinda sad but if it frustrates you so much, then next time someone says something to your friend just say something to shut them up like 'Oh I think it looks really good You should dress like this more often'
this is not my business. No one like to see their friends in distress and pain for more than enough. So we just tried to bring her back to normal life. at the end of the day its their own life and they can deal with such remarks. Now people like the colleague are everywhere. Its the society actually. And my frustration is against the society and this manipulating "log kya kahenge" fear. I dont find it justifiable thats it.
Re: Life of a Widow
this is not my business. No one like to see their friends in distress and pain for more than enough. So we just tried to bring her back to normal life. at the end of the day its their own life and they can deal with such remarks. Now people like the colleague are everywhere. Its the society actually. And my frustration is against the society and this manipulating "log kya kahenge" fear. I dont find it justifiable thats it.
Woah. You watch two incidents and you feel upset as you see it as unjustifiable. I give you a suggestion in how to diffuse another such situation and you reply with it not being your business? That it's their own life and they have to deal with it themselves? Well if you don't want to do anything than why even complain?
It's not a matter of being there 24/7 to stand up for your friend because she doesn't have courage herself. What I said was very simply a small kind gesture that could make your friend feel better about herself and make the other colleagues realise that they're being silly. I'm actually really shocked that performing just a small kind gesture (which isn't going to hurt you in any way) is something that is not in your business to do! What's happened to basic compassion and humanity!
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And yes I can appreciate that you've helped your friend in the past year. However there is no point being frustrated with society if you don't act to try and change it, no matter how small that action could be.
Re: Life of a Widow
princess take a chill pill. when i said its not my business it means I cannot go all the way to over protect her and do so every time and all the time. After all it is her life. I can confront a colleague but cannot zip up the society. Its a general behaviour which needs time and mutual efforts to curb. I hope you got my point.
Re: Life of a Widow
ZK - its widow, not window.