wot is when we say that god has written down everything for us ?? why is that so??? why cant we change it??
arent we helpless creatures being tamed by every incident or being used by every instance in every way..
i know a girl who is very pretty, she got married at 21 years of age to an extra ordinary BBCd who after a months time of marriage turned out to be the most difficult person. and finding no solution the girl quietly got divorced…
now again the girl is married but now her hubby has turned out to be an addict… does this mean another divorce or is this a test from Allah ,…
wat ever it is i feel miserable knowing this story…
Some people have more difficult times in their qismat as compared to others. There is usually no explanation and justification for these and we might complain 'why us'. We can only do sabar and have full faith on Allah. Allah will definitely compensate people for all hardships faced by them either in this world or in the world hereafter.
everyone has a story to tell. Sometimes its happy with tragic ending and sometimes its tragic with happy ending. your worth is how you stand in the face of all of it. Its neither about your deserving or punishment. Its just a trial. You withstand or give in is all what matters.
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Life has its ups and downs for some , it has only ups for some and it offers only downs for some. It does not meant you stop living and stop struggling.
You know given that circumstances and situations we are involved in is hard or sometimes tragic. But at the end of the day, we are responsbile for our own tasks and attitude. Now the situation that you described above means that this girl should have been very careful. She is perhaps searching for peace in her life and insha'allah my prayer is with her. Allah has given us right to act on our free will and "Akal". Lets use that for the best of our ability and then leave it Allah to make it better. I hope all of us do truely attain whatever we are asking for, it is very tough world out there with un-predictable results. After-all, it is not perfect world.
i know a girl who is very pretty,, she got married at 21 years of age to an extra ordinary BBCd who after a months time of marriage turned out to be the most difficult person. and finding no solution the girl quietly got divorced.... now again the girl is married but now her hubby has turned out to be an addict... does this mean another divorce or is this a test from Allah ,....
A guy came to a doctor and said, 'doctor when I poke myself at my side, it hurts - when I poke myself at my jaw, it hurts - when I poke myself at my thigh - it hurts. What is wrong with me'?
Doctor said, you have a broken finger.
Point is, sometimes we believe that problem is else where. I am not passing any judgment here but maybe the problem lies closer to home and not in those guys.
We can only do sabar and have full faith on Allah. Allah will definitely compensate people for all hardships faced by them either in this world or in the world hereafter.
We should have sabr and take steps to try and improve our situations.. Allah does not give reward to ppl for staying in bad situations for no good reason and not even trying to get away or make life better for themselves.. Why would Allah reward ppl for being miserable or putting themselves in harmful (physical or emotional) or dangerous situations?
Sometimes Allah swt is trying to tell us something and we just dont get it. Every time a relationship goes wrong in life, its best to not blame the other party. You should take a lesson from everything because it IS there...we just dont look hard enough.
Maybe your friend should have waited before jumping into another marriage - especially after she got married at age 21 the first time.
Some people just don't have luck in one or more than one aspect of their lives. You will find many examples around you of people with failed marriages / relationships while they have been extremely fortunate in other aspects of their lives. I believe that Allah keeps a record of all our sufferings and what ever pain we endure in our lives will be reciprocated in this life or after life. Sometimes you can never find answers to things happened in your life and that's the way life is . I hope things get better for your friend.
We should have sabr and take steps to try and improve our situations.. Allah does not give reward to ppl for staying in bad situations for no good reason and not even trying to get away or make life better for themselves.. Why would Allah reward ppl for being miserable or putting themselves in harmful (physical or emotional) or dangerous situations?
Of course sabar involves struggling. Sabar does not mean sitting quietly leaving everything in Allah's hands. All we can do is try, rest is in Allah's hands.
Mali da kam pani dena bhar bhar mashkan paway
Malik da kam phal phul laona laway ya na laway
The gardener’s job is to water the plants in abundance and God’s job
is to be the All-Provider, but the dispensation depends on Him
I can never get the point when for marriages istakhara comes out to be positive but they end up badly ... ab is ko kia keh skty hain kismat ya kia ... its said that dua se kismat badal jati hy but wo b tou log hoty hain jin ki duaein is jahaan me poori nai hoteeen ... how can this be explained