Life in Santa Monica, CA. Looking for a desi perspective.

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So, my main reason for coming back to G.S. was that I am looking for advice from fellow stateside gupsters on moving to the States.

I’ve been contemplating on moving to the U.S. for a couple of years now, because my dad goes back and forth every few months, as he has his friends living on the west coast, namely SoCal and a few in the greater Los Angeles area, and they like to get together for a game of tennis every now and then. Retired life.

Got me thinking. Since, at this point, my work being completely mobile, that we could move, and it would be a hell of a lot easier on my parents, than having to take 13 hour flights every 6 to 8 months, my mom hates flying long distances.

So far, the only option on the table is Santa Monica, CA, close to the pier. I enjoy the constant nature of the weather over there. I like the idea of living close to the beach and not having to worry about being dehydrated to death in the summers. Also, its about an hours drive south to Orange County. So much better for my parents. Lastly, I want to be as close as possible to downtown L.A. for work purposes.

Visited Santa Monica in 2019 with the family, to check out some homes close to the pier. Found a few really nice ones, then COVID-19 happened. And like with pretty much everything else, our plans went in to deep hibernation, as well.

I was wondering, any guppies here currently living in California? Or used to live there. Would you recommend Santa Monica as a place to settle down with family? What is the schooling situation like over there? Any private schools in the vicinity? Pakistani community around?. I’ve heard there is a halal papa johns somewhere around Santa Monica. :balley:
Any advice would be appreciated. :hat:

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I lived near LAX about 10 years ago for about 6 months so I can give you a traveler’s account. I personally value the people, with whom I interact the most on a day to day basis, more than a certain place. And I loved those people there. I had heard a lot of good stuff about the area from the tv, movies, and acquaintances before moving there but seeing was believing.

Let me start with pros:

1- Some amazing halal restaurants and buffet options are available. Not just with South Asian food, but also with American, Chinese, Mexican, etc. halal food as well.

2- Tons of fun places all around. I knew some folks before moving there and almost every other weekend we would go to these places. Too many to list really.

3- Tons of tourists, actors/actresses/models from all around the world come here to find work and that makes this place like no other. Made me appreciate why showbiz is the toughest career out there.

Now some unglamorous cons:

1- There are lots of Pakistani families who live in this region. The more sophisticated kind do not want to have anything to do with those in lower socioeconomic status. While that is true everywhere, this region has this culture on steroids.

2- Massive income inequality has driven people to become very aggressive. This aggression manifests itself in road rage and neighbor disputes of the sort I had never experienced before or after.

3- The place has a huge problem with homelessness. Many trains and buses smell of urine, along with several streets in and around densely populated areas.

4- Rents are too damn high. Traffic is worse than anywhere else I’ve lived. A 2 hour commute here would take just 20 minutes in most major cities. Pick your poison. And we haven’t even talked about taxes yet.

5- Number of people willing to relocate to anywhere else but are stuck here for various reasons is the highest that I’ve come across. On top of all the cons, the government here kind of tricks you into breaking the law so they can collect fines. For example, instead of making toll collection points hard to miss, they’ve made them in such a way so they are easy to miss. I missed it and was ticketed only to learn later that many people have had the same story.

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Glad I’m not the only one. I too have noticed that L.A. folks are nice people, a stark contrast to NYC gophers that are always grumpy and upset about their lives.

I have to agree with you on this one. Naan Hut & Charga House, I could eat that stuff for days. But I would miss going to my local franchise fast food joint at 2 am in the morning, just cos I felt like it. The perks of living in a Muslim country, I guess.

I like the pier, and Sunset Blvd. But yeah, an hours drive north and there are some really pretty sight seeing opportunities. PCH is also a blast to drive down, when there is no traffic.

This sort of stuff never really intrigued me much. Never been star struck, ever.

So, no sociable Pakistani’s then, lol.

We landed in LAX on a Monday, 7:30 am. Drove down i405 heading north to our Airbnb, it was maybe 12 miles, took us the best part of about an hour. This was my first time was driving in the States.

Certainly won’t be the case in and around the residential neighborhoods, right?

I plan on buying outright. Reasons why I chose Santa Monica was because the residential neighborhoods are super quite, and also the added benefit of being close to the beach. The house we are looking at is one parking lot away from the ocean front walk in Santa Monica. It’s got an elementary, middle & high school within a 10 minute walk. Also, direct access to the i10, which would pretty much take us all the way to up to Newport if we had to.

I did not know that.

I have no real interest in moving to the United States. I offered my dad that we could move to the Italian lake district, beautiful weather, tons of stuff to do, access to continental Europe, some of the best driving roads on the planet, but he was not interested. So, I have no choice but to oblige. Basically, he wants to spend his retirement with his buddies.

Thanks for sharing all of this valuable information!. :slight_smile:

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I used to live near the beach cities area (redondo, hermosa, manhattan). This is less touristy than Santa Monica with easy 405 access than can take you south to OC or north to DTLA, all withing 1 hour drive.

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Hey hey hey :asa:

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Most of the people with western thinking would not make such life changing decisions based on being close to friends, that is setting yourself for disappointment. I can understand being close to family but this blows my mind. When you visit for a short time there is a lot of excitement and nostalgia but over the long term people may not get that kind of attention. I tell people to pick up hobbies, volunteer and help community. One should learn to be happy in their own company. Do you plan to live with family forever, wouldnt you want to have your own life and live life as per your choices?

I encourage my children to fly away from the nest, experience life on their own terms and make their own mistakes. What happens when you get married? Every place has good and bad people, who we meet is a projection of our own personality. I do not agree with @decentGuy assesment of wealthier people being mean, I have lots of very wealthy relatives in LA, OC etc and they are very polite and courteous. Sometimes personal insecurites makes people defensive and aggresive and people who are not mean just react to the defensive and mean behavior.

Cooking is an amazing life skill and I feel most should learn to cook at home, I cook amazing foods and there is no need to eat out. Pak cooking is so simple it is adrak, lassan, piyaaz, dhania, zeera, tamatar, bhoona in everything.

My nephew got food catered for his wedding from Badmaash and he charged over 100/plate and food was a disaster, then my sis did second reception from Shah Nawaz at 20/plate and food was amazing. My mom used to talk about Islamic Chinese and thought food was incredible.

If you hang out With Iranian crowds, they know to party and their food is amazing, and good looking people.

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I used to live near the beach cities area (redondo, hermosa, manhattan). This is less touristy than Santa Monica with easy 405 access than can take you south to OC or north to DTLA, all withing 1 hour drive.
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Redondo beach is beautiful. How was the general atmosphere like? How long did you live there?

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I was talking mostly about the old Jewish folks up in the diamond district. Also, like folks that work mid level jobs on wall street/FiDi types. :wink:

Don’t get me wrong, I love NYC, its just that the pace of life is extraordinary in the city. I totally understand why people who get married and have kids eventually move out of the city and settle elsewhere.

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Well, we were planning of moving out of the Middle East for a while now. I was originally planning to settle down somewhere in continental Europe, I just prefer that region of the world over anywhere else, just that dad was like why not move to the U.S. where we have some family, and he has his friends.

Also, dad is a mechanical engineer by qualification, he loves spending time in his workshop at home, he would just continue doing that as a hobby wherever we go.

Yes, I do prefer living in a joint family, especially since we are just 5 people. 6, whenever my brother decides he wants to get married.

I’m already married, reasons why I had schooling as one of the main criteria’s for my decision to want to move to Santa Monica. We all live together, my parents, myself and the wifey, my brother, we’ve always enjoyed living in a joint family system, however, my dad has always encouraged us to do our own thing as well, but we all just prefer it this way.

No no, I absolutely agree with @decentGuy because Pakistani’s have the worst chip on their shoulders, especially the ones that live in the west. Its like since they now live in a western country, that they’ve somehow made it and now are the chosen ones. I can’t even imagine how exaggerated it might be for the wealthier ones among us.

I find desi cooking akin to being a rocket scientist.

Good to know. :slight_smile:

I’d say that I’ve spent enough time with middle eastern folks to not want to mingle with them anymore. I’d avoid them like the plague.

Thanks for your input. :slight_smile:

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Thanks, Sind! But not just yet, hopefully sometime around early next year. :slight_smile:

You live around there?

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Sorry if I missed it already, but question:

Why would you move to a state having freaking 14% tax rate? Highest in the country.

A mediocre house will cost you a million or more.

Why not move to a 0% tax rate state like Florida or Texas. You can get a mansion for anywhere around 300k. For work, most of the things are remote already.

Both of these states have some booming locations like Plano, TX where majority of big corps are moving. Think long term. You can always visit any pier city for vacation.

also other states to look for are Carolinas on North east while Colarado and others in midwest and west.

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You are basically saying that you will submit to your dads desire and you never mentioned how the ladies of the house feel about it. Do they have a say, would the entire family upend their life and go to a place so your dad can hang out with friends, most males in the west do not hang with other males they spend quality time with family or do something productive with their life. Basically I understand that you dont need to apply for immigration and any country will allow you to settle there. Do you have US residency or EU?

One place where Pakistanis dont have a chip on the shoulder, there are amazing restaurants, everything is halal and people live in joint families and pretty much in lap of luxury is Pakistan. Why not go live in Pakistan?

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What the hell is wrong with you?

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I have yet to discuss this with lawyers & CPA’s, as most all of my income is foreign, i.e. outside of the U.S.

Indeed.

About 5 years ago, I was working as a consultant for an American company, I spent about 6 months living in the U.S., mostly in NYC, but I had the opportunity to visit Austin & Waco as their mid-western operations were running out of Texas. To be honest, it felt like a red state, conservative, even though Austin is kinda cool and laidback, but its still home to gun law advocates, and the likes. The day Texas as a state votes blue, I’d move. Not because I support the democrats, but because to me would be an indicator that the Texas folks are starting to mellow down. :hehe:

In-regards to Florida, I’d be a Florida man then. :meeno:

Alhumulillah, our budget is decent enough that it doesn’t really matter.

While I agree that big corporations are moving east. However, the corporations that matter, i.e. that would seriously put a dent in California’s annual budget if they left the state, like Apple, Google, etc… have invested so much that it would be difficult for them to just up end and leave.

I don’t know, maybe I’m being unreasonable, but I’ve never been keen on visiting a red state. Also, middle America has never seemed like a safe place to be, lol.

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My dad has made plenty of sacrifices over the years, never asked for much. So, if this is the one time he has asked us all for something, the least we can do is to say yes. Also, as I’ve mentioned earlier, we as a family have been planning on moving out of the Middle East for a while now. It was a matter of when and where. Everybody was fine with North America, I was the only one insisting the E.U.

Lol, is this your way of trying to put me off moving to the U.S.?

I buy property, I get permanent residency, its a simple as that. In the U.S. the threshold is $900k if bought outright, Alhumdulillah our budget is much, MUCH higher than that, and we’re buying outright. Hope that answers your question.

I still do not understand why you’re so upset with my life decisions, even though they don’t affect yours? And oh trust me, I would choose life in Islamabad F7/3, F6/3 over the REST OF THE WORLD.

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What the hell is wrong with you?
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Its okay, let him vent out his frustrations. :hehe:

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You sound like a cool guy and have done well for yourself and your family. Though I don't personally subscribe to the joint-family system but I can see some benefits there, and you should not be criticised for how you choose to live your life. I also believe parents should let go of their offsprings when time is right, but then we all are different people with widely differing world-views and family dynamics.

I lived in the USA for less than six months, mainly in the NYC and Missouri, and have visited a few times, but never liked it enough to make it home. Have you considered Australia, or is too far and secluded from rest of the World for you?

And BTW, not living on the continent seems like a good decision.

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I am of the opinion that in old age is when your parents need you the most, but I also believe that if my wife were not comfortable living with my parents, I would have no option but to move out. Alhumdulillah, wife and my mother are practically best friends at this point. So, living with the family is a no-brainer. But that’s besides the point, like you said.

Also, up until last year, my work required me to travel a lot, and most of times I take my wife with me, so she gets to spend plenty of time with me, away from home.

Australia is just too far away form the rest of the world. As I’ve said earlier, if I could choose to, I would prefer living in the Italian lake district, for me Italy is perfection. Islamabad would be a close second, but since we have almost no family left in Pakistan whatsoever, it would get quite lonely quite fast, also the political instability.

Sorry, I didn’t get that one.

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I am absolutely not upset, just trying to understand your perspective as you asked for input, just a simple question as why not move to Pakistan if that culture, halal restaurants and joint family is that important?
iT is parents responsibility to make sacrifices, my boys are international athletes and I would be driving them at 5 am in minus 30 to their trainings and I pushed them out of the nest so they have an opportunity to grow and experience life on their own. I would never ask my kids to make sacrifices for me

@decentGuy Why does an innocuous suggestion to move to a Pakistan seem like an insult? Many here including decent guy and Le Pak say they don’t like western culture just moved for money. West is an individualistic culture where all humans are equal and make their own decisions and many in East believe in group culture and it won’t be easy to blend both together