Maybe some of the married women here could relate to this experience, directly or indirectly. If you have spent some time with your in-laws with your husband being away abroad or otherwise, how has your experience being? I would like to know specially if you’ve been newly married and had to go through this situation. Do you feel comfortable? How do you cope in some complex kinda situations? Or how do you react when you are asked a slap-in-your-face question or given such comment?
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Provide some examples of 'slap-in-your-face' questions.
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yeah thats why I wouldn't want to live with them permanently.. too many problems and arguments can arise
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hmm like question regarding ‘your inability to have kids’ , ’ going out alone even at daytime even though you are quite of age’, etc…
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Inability to have kids or your decision not to have kids?
Besides, is it Islamic to seek in-law's permission prior to leaving the house or something cultural? Shouldn't you speak to your husband about it? I.e. is it okay if I go to places on my own. I'm sure the husband will say yes. In that case, I don't see why you'd further require your in-laws permission.
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Masi....I've lived with in-laws for almost 2 years while hubs was abroad....All I can say is, I learnt a lot. As for going out etc. I've always asked my biological parents for permission before going out ...n I did the same at in-law's. I wouldn't declare it compulsary but thats just what I did. For the Question answer part...I don't poke my nose in this type of discussion usually,....n Alhamdulillah I was never asked anything like that .....so can't say!!
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every in law is different so can't really say. I've never had that experience.
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neva had sticky experiences with my inlaws.... i guess its a 2-way situation. both parties hav to hav some sort of understanding and i know its not easy to deal with some of those "slap-in-ur-face" questions specially when ur newly married. i suppose its only polite to reply those questions as diplomatically as u possibly can and u shud hav a discussion abt this matter when ur husband is around.
giv it some time... talk to them in a "friendly" sort of way... u know like hav some chit chats over tea, talk abt urself, talk abt their son's childhood pranks, ask their opinion on some trivial matters, do things together etc etc etc, u get wat i mean? generally make urself an "active" part of their family life. make ur way into their hearts! i mean since ur living with them, might as well have a pleasant life! u will feel more comfortable as u get to know them. i guess :D
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just smile and nod...and let it slide...it's usually only short term and they usually aren't thinking when they say stuff....