your friend: monkey :)
hubby should love you for who you are.. not change you..
you share life not put one person on a pedastal
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OOOK so it is balance of priorities and commitments, which is understandable and of course justified, and is applicable to any one with a sense of responsibility irrespective of the gender but what is this change that these girls are talking about. Why do they make it sound so terrifying ?
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paindoo,
There are many cases where in order to make their husbands happy, girls are forced to change the way they dress, people they meet, activities they take part in.. Its pretty lame and wrong, but some control freaks force this.
However, the changes that come about as a natural progression in life are completely different. having more responsibilities (or in some cases having responsibilities for teh first time in their lives) people think that they have changed because they have to take care of a home, a spouse, and later kids and not to mention the person is growing older at the same time.
Weere any of us exactly the same when we finished college as we were when we finished high school? probably not, perspectives change, motivations change, approaches change.
people mix the 3 types of changes up
forced changes.. changes that were made to keep a marriage going or to please the spouse
changes due to rsponsibilities, circumstances, duties etc
changes as a natural part of growing and evoloving as a person