I understood your question to mean that he did something physical with the lady, but you are saying otherwise.
Hi,
I have read all replies and your text.
well if he seems really ok now and also try to make efforts for this relationship. Then I must say you just give him chance. May its his last mistake and and he realised it. Then I think we all are not perfect, anyone can make mistake, he deserve a 2nd chance. not for only his sake your and your kids as well.
^ Hahahaha Madhanee, that was funny!
ebrima_jallow, I read in your profile that ur in Holland. DO you speak dutch? Maybe I can be of help as I know both urdu and dutch :-)
madhanee
well i'm not like Fayz.. just cuz he can be a bigger jerk and wasn't is no reason to excuse his behavior and/or be thankful!!!
you own his a$$.. and if he doesn't recognize that.. you're better off without such a loser.
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OMG such people actually exist for real?
sorry to say this but he sounds like a JERK
*I'm just having difficulty making him understand how I feel. He is from Pakistan and I dont know the words in urdu to tell him how I'm feeling. *
He does realize what he did was wrong..you can speak French if you wish but you don’t need to tell him anything. His actions pretty much show that he is regretful. Or am I wrong?
*He needs to realise that things may never be the same even though they have improved a lot. Only time will tell. He needs to know that there is no time limit on something like this. eg. He cant say that OK its been 2 years, now you must be over it. *
Things have improved so why can’t they improve even more? You are right that time will help in the healing process but you have to work on it as well. Its not gonna happen until you start trusting him and making an effort from your side as well…. Or are you still not sure of his sincerity? If that’s the case then ‘communicate’ …help urself a bit…
And to keep saying that hes done nothing wrong will only make it worse.
I think like every other guy he has a slight ego issue too…he won’t admit openly that he is wrong..but his actions are speaking for themselves or are they not?
*He needs to be patient with me. *
He has been patient for two years and is trying to make things better…what other choices does he have? You should either leave him or don’t prolong this phase…you are not helping yourself by getting depressed. You should channel your energy elsewhere.
p.s. As for my friend...he says Nathalie at the spa doesn't mind that he is going out with two girls at the same time...why should anyone else :-D sighz
there is worse than this that goes on in the world. sigh
i knew someone who was engaged to a girl in pakistan, and he would go with different women every few months. i asked him about his behavior and he said “right now i am a male-prostitute, but i wont be like that after marriage.” and the part i couldnt figure out was, this guy was very well known in his community and he wasnt even that discreet about it. that was shocking!!!
Men.