Most of the threads in life one are posted to discuss bad things about individual who mostly likely are not a member of this forum.
Discussing such person who doesn’t know that we are criticizing him/her in his/her absence doesn’t it qualify as gheebat and inst it one of the worst sins we can do ?
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^its called venting here…
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Most of the threads in life one are posted to discuss bad things about individual who mostly likely are not a member of this forum.
Discussing such person who doesn't know that we are criticizing him/her in his/her absence doesn't it qualify as gheebat and inst it one of the worst sins we can do ?
So true Brother, dil ki baat kahi. But at the same time i'm sure many will come and defend their actions, last but not the least please be aware, you speak the truth and nobody can change that no matter what. Cheers :-)
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^But you know..one man's truth is another's Lie.....
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Are you participating in that gheebat by reading the threads?
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its called freedom of speech :D
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Are you participating in that gheebat by reading the threads?
Well My post isnt a statement rather its a question, asking if it is indeed gheebat.
As a child the definition of Gheebat i learnt was "peeth peechay kisi ki burai kerna" I dunt think reading the thread counts as gheebat, but posting a comment on thread criticizing someone you dont even know or criticizing someone on his back without knowing his side of story does seem like gheebat.
^But you know..one man's truth is another's Lie.....
I heared similar proverbs but this is new to me.
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Yes it is gheebat. And we should refrain from it. However, given that we are human beings, we will come here, say all this good stuff and get back to doing it again. Life.
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Most of the threads in life one are posted to discuss bad things about individual who mostly likely are not a member of this forum.
Discussing such person who doesn't know that we are criticizing him/her in his/her absence doesn't it qualify as gheebat and inst it one of the worst sins we can do ?
You caught us out :(
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I get your point of view, but if someone (lets say a DIL since isn't that generally the case) does vent/backbite here and is therefore calmer at home, which ultimately keep the peace in her house isn't that sort of good? Also, a lot of the time people ask each other for advice (whilst venting) which I would hope helps them make the right decisions in their lives.
I haven't really formed my own opinion on this yet though :S
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I get your point of view, but if someone (lets say a DIL since isn't that generally the case) does vent/backbite here and is therefore calmer at home, which ultimately keep the peace in her house isn't that sort of good? Also, a lot of the time people ask each other for advice (whilst venting) which I would hope helps them make the right decisions in their lives. I haven't really formed my own opinion on this yet though :S
R u suggesting if back biting keeps peace in her home than therez no harm done ?
I am confused too when i consider it back biting, coz no one really knows the person guppy is talking about.
I think DIL's can change the approach they usually adopt to explain there problem. They can make it a general question i.e
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What wud you suggest for such woman.
Whos Husband doesnt come back home at time, Has multiple gf's, drinks, Beats his wife up, Only cares about his family. Doesnt let his wife out, beats his kidds up, does drugs, doesnt pray, curses 24/7 and so on.....
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And all of us guppies can suggest her the pain killer we suggest to every girl who has one any kind of itch
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.... Get out of this marriage, leave your husband. e.t.c
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Re: Life 1 and back biting.
Most of the threads in life one are posted to discuss bad things about individual who mostly likely are not a member of this forum.
Discussing such person who doesn't know that we are criticizing him/her in his/her absence doesn't it qualify as gheebat and inst it one of the worst sins we can do ?
I'm not sure if we could call it backbiting since the audience doesn't really know the person in question. So it's like talking about someone anonymous, which wouldn't end up defaming them as long as we don't know them. Of course, if people do know the person being talked about, then that would change everything (i.e. be backbiting).
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Wouldn't even seeing a counsellor or psychiatrist be termed 'backbiting' as well going by the definition of some on here?
Obviously there's a difference between genuinely seeking help and advice and just 'venting' and letting off steam but I do think sometimes specific details are needed rather than just a vague post from the OP..
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I'm not sure** if we could call it backbiting since the audience doesn't really know the person in question**. So it's like talking about someone anonymous, which wouldn't end up defaming them as long as we don't know them. Of course, if people do know the person being talked about, then that would change everything (i.e. be backbiting).
*Wouldn't even seeing a counsellor or psychiatrist be termed 'backbiting' as well going by the definition of some on here? *
Obviously there's a difference between genuinely seeking help and advice and just 'venting' and letting off steam but I do think sometimes specific details are needed rather than just a vague post from the OP..
R u suggesting if back biting keeps peace in her home than therez no harm done ?
*I am confused too when i consider it back biting, coz no one really knows the person guppy is talking about. *
I think DIL's can change the approach they usually adopt to explain there problem. They can make it a general question i.e
And all of us guppies can suggest her the pain killer we suggest to every girl who has one any kind of itch
am more of asking question then making a statement that its gheebat.
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this is one such thaka hua thread. I refuse to agree with it. we do not backbite. We face problems, we come for sharing so that we could extract a positive outcome to the solution. Most of the time neither the thread starter mentions nor we guppies know any details of the people under discussion. The discussion itself is always general. Where does backbiting come in here? This is sad people have such distorted perspectives.
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Most of the threads in life one are posted to discuss bad things about individual who mostly likely are not a member of this forum......
Discussion on bad things about members of this forum are not allowed, so we have to bring in non-members :P
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Because i created this proverb when i posted it