The boys (not the ones on GS) and myself were talking last night about marriage and physical attraction after marriage.
We’ve come to the striking conclusion that most desi couples don’t give a owl’s hoot about their appearance anymore.
They don’t make an effort to look “sexy” for their significant other. The ladies of the house will splatter all over the place.
The gents will off themselves with a bubbling belly and start acting like ogres.
The wives won’t prep themselves for their husbands but would rather do it for other people at occassions. Same goes for the men.
I mean whats with couples, do they want to lose the sex appeal after they sign the papers?
They take each other for granted. Why not make the effort to feel sexy feel special, build self esteem, make yourself wanted, attractive to your significant other.
Yeah ok, I’ve heard it a million times; no time goes on with a line of excuses.
Causes of infidelity start from within the house, then comes the home wrecker. The couple themselves don’t do what they could to bring back the same spice in their life.
hmm well not exactly true..
i know lot of couples who take care of themselves even after they have kids :)
as for women..well it is hard to get back in shape after they have kids.. but i think most of them still try to look good :)
Thats funny! i was thinkin about the same thin the other day.... :) .. personally.. i think no matter if we r recently married or its been quite a while.. we should take care of ourselves. maintain our personaility... not even for ur partner for ur own self too.. cos if u look good u feel good.. n that definitely solves lot of our problems.. doesnt it?! :) ..
having a healthy relationship is absolutely necessary .. it effects on family environment.. if u feel good about each other... there is definitely a positiv air in ur everyday life..
True to some extent...........but the trends changing...for the better....but at a snail's pace.
Whats the main trend here in Karachi is that guys seek good education, find a nice girl , marry and then think "kay meri life to ban gayee.....I have reached the zenith". Same goes for the girls, and after a kid or two, they get so engaged in their daily affairs, (the wife managing the house, the kids, ...the hubby entangled in the business, the mortgage, climbing up the social ladder)..that they start neglecting themselves. But nowadays with couples attending more social gatherings, there is a marked improvement in their general appearance and has a direct bearing in their life.
I guess the men are more to blame for this as they began to percieve their once-upon-a-time-sweetheart, as a domestic servant and a child bearer, and our women accept that role meekly.
I know men in lower income locales who take their wives out after dinner for a stroll, treat them to a meetha pan, and lead a happy life. True, this represents a very small portion of the populace, but it IS being done and CAN be done, cant it?
I don't think building esteem has anything to do with sex appeal. It's sounds a bit flashy. If your self-esteem revolves around looking sexy and handsome, then it's a pitiable situation.
However, I have noticed in many cases that aging process accelerates after marriage. But, it’s not always the case. After all, one of the core reasons of disenchantment could be that after a while you just know everything about each other, and it may start to get boring.
But why not look at your spouse as your best friend; whether it’s communication, or getting your spouse into the same habits and activities as yourself, or marry someone who has similar likings. I would never marry anyone who I think will not blend into the lifestyle I am accustomed to, or cannot become my best friend. There are other so many ways to keep that spice and energy into the relationship, and make that bond of friendship grow stronger.
goes on with a line of excuses.
