I was talking to one of my friends today and she has a theory:
Usually, if you meet someone and the chemistry is just off the wall strong…it wont work out after marriage because sparks die and fade.
If the sparks are so-so before…chances are they will be stronger after marriage.
Is this true?
Did the sparks fly for you after marriage if they didnt before? Can chemistry grow? Does a person’s looks grow on you eventually?
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For me it def grew stronger after marriage. even look wise i didn't find him that attractive initially. but with time the attraction has grown to a part where even the hottest guy rarely impress me.
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Men lose interest in their wives easily with the time. Women start to love more and more with passing of the time.
I remember before marriage my husband was so after me giving me all his attention but the marriage minimized that spark or whatever.....may be because of the resposibilities that come with and after a marriage.
sparks are still there, and if anything when i see him all smart and handsome i remember the reason why the sparks flew in the first place.
Def did not fade with time for us.
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Aww... I want sparks!!! lol
But that's a pretty interesting theory...if your 24/7 around each other and are going all gaga before marriage...then what's the excitment left for afterwards?? But if your slowly starting to get to know one another...then there will still be some mystery left for after you tie the knot!! I don't think that made any sense...but whatever :P
sparks are still there, and if anything when i see him all smart and handsome i remember the reason why the sparks flew in the first place.
Def did not fade with time for us.
agree. there was strong chemistry between us when we first met and i'd say it's even more so now. yea.. you get used to a person when you spend most of your time with them, so it's important to make an effort to keep the sparks flying.
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If you want sparks, you have to work for them. Sometimes its easy to ignite a fire, early in a relationship especially. Later on, it may become harder to create the spark that will re-ignite the fire but its well worth the effort. I know, almost 12 years and still sparking :)
If you want sparks, you have to work for them. Sometimes its easy to ignite a fire, early in a relationship especially. Later on, it may become harder to create the spark that will re-ignite the fire but its well worth the effort. I know, almost 12 years and still sparking :)
mashallah...:).
What type of sparks are we talking about? Like when your husband looks at you and you feel butterflies in your tummy and things like that?????
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I don't think that's true.
If you had sparks before you got married - you tend to have sparks later on as well.
It's actually really hard to create chemistry (I am not saying it's not do-able) when there is none to start of in the first place.
mashallah...:).
What type of sparks are we talking about? Like when your husband looks at you and you feel butterflies in your tummy and things like that?????
no butterflies ones is intial stage. later the sensation changes but takes other forms. i remember in our early marriage the min we were alone or he even just sat close by my heart would beat really fast and he will actually be hot as if he's having a fever. it doesn't happen like that any more but the spark is still there.
no butterflies ones is intial stage. later the sensation changes but takes other forms. i remember in our early marriage the min we were alone or he even just sat close by my heart would beat really fast and he will actually be hot as if he's having a fever. it doesn't happen like that any more but the spark is still there.
Okay no butterflies and no fast beating of the heart......so what is the spark that we're referring to?
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hmmm...hareem akailay main milo zara
I think I’m naive. 
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The sparks I am referring to are the ones after marriage...
Like you get a little soft when you see him dressed up and just wanna mess his hair up for fun.
Or when he is doing something sweet without even knowing it. Like not ordering shrimp for his dinner because he knows I wont share in his plate then...I hate shrimp.
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^messing up his hair....that's a good idea. :D
Yeah these kinda funny things happen quite often between us. I love when he laughs at my jokes.
but i thought you mentioned physical chemistry and looks in the original post 
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^ That too, I went off on a tangent thats all!
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I thought we were talking about fireworks or something
Wrong section maybe 
Sparks are there, just in a different manner. I used to think all there was to a relationship was the butterflies in the tummy, heart racing and I thought over the years i would be bored when these were no longer there... but that doesn't happen if anything you are more attracted to them for the little things they do.
I agree with Njgal, you need to have some chemistry to begin with and Mo3 is right when she says you have to keep working on those sparks.... dress up for each other, do things what your partner likes.... and the physical attraction is not as WILD but it is there and more meaningful in my opinion