I c everyone always complainin how married life is the hardest or not as fun as they had thought, blah blah. But now i wanna hear about good marriages and the positive change they have bought in peoples lives :=)
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OK so what do you want to know?
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Nowdays, happy marriages are usually defined as "yet to be seen". :D
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^It's sad isn't it?
Increased infidelity.....open marriages.....open relationships with mutual children without marriage.
Sometimes I wonder if the institution of marriage is going to become either obsolete......or a rarity......in the future. Or if those who are happily married and stay monogamous....into their old age till death do them part....will be among the minority.
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my mummy daddy love each other so much that they make sure they argue about everything. They say its love.
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I believe every phase of life has its own charm. I miss my before marriage life alot but it doesn't mean that I am not happy with my marriage life. Problems are everywhere and I think I have faced many problems in my before marriage life also and I used to complain alot. Now after marriage I am encountering many other 'strange' probs yet I am satisfied with what I'm having right now (MashAllah). The person with whom I got married is overall an ideal person on earth for me and he really suits me. If I face any problem than he is not the reason, it's that home- politics that makes me feel depressed.
mommy daddy -----> 24 yrs n 5 kids, dude! What else is a happy marriage? 
I’m already married to my pwince charming in my dreams and we’re very happy Mashallah 
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ok we all kno barbie is high ... so wat else is new
Ali is getting a jutti on his head from me, thats new..
oh wait… thats not new either 
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huma is violent as always ... thats not new either
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I got burned before here for overly spouting about my happy marriage. People just dont want to hear about it! Yes, after 12 plus years, I count my blessings and thank my luckly stars each and every single day for havin such an awesome husband. Who gave me 3 awesome boys. I'd lay down my life for him. He is my knight in shining armor, my prince, my superhero all rolled into one, and He's MINE-AL_MINE!!!
Do we argue? Yup, sometimes. We have ups and downs. But all in all, even in the worst of times I know that my man is the very best and I happen to be the luckiest wife on the planet to have the most awesome husband who ever lived.
ok, so lets beat me up some....
omg i absolute LOVE my married life and wouldn't go back to single life even if i had a choice. to be honest, being happy in married life kind of depends on how satisfied you were with your single life. for example, i see plenty of my friends whose parents were extra strict, didn't let them enjoy their college years, hang out with friends, live on campus, etc and now its like they try so soo hard to "have fun" and "live out their young desires" and its obviously too late cuz they're either married or atleast nikahed and it just doesn't work.
for me on the other hand, i had plenty of fun and craziness when i wanted it, i kept multiple jobs, saved up alotta money for my wedding, still had late nights with friends, studied hard and played hard and now that i'm sooo completely over that unpredictable phase of life i love being stable, and bonded with my one bestest friend in the world. its so comforting to know someone's there for you 100% of the time and able to take care of you if anything happens. its like you know that there is a certain time and appropriate place and appropriate age for certain things. i mean, who doesn't make fun of the 30-something year olds hanging out at clubs or "bhangra blowouts"? its like, you do that stuff when its your time, and then you MOVE ON. ppl who are stuck at certain phases of their life just look really pathetic. yeah its a bit more scary to have a full time job and know that you're gonna have more and more responsibilities as your family grows, maybe you buy a house, maybe have kids, but isn't that what life's all about?
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Count me in as one. Married over 10 years and we still gush over each other. We bet all sappy and mushy even if we spend one night apart. Having our daughter after 9 years of marriage seems to have made us even happier, happier than we ever expected.
Alhamdulillah.
Checklist for marriage :
1) Manipulation by family.
2) Mortgage debt.
3) Car debt.
4) Routine trips to the nearest super-store.
4) Desi diaspora, MIL-wife gong show.
5) Pretend this is all necessary.
6) A false sense of accomplishment.
7) Body fat.
8) Body hair.
9) Food with more oil than a freaking oil spill.
10) Lost in traditions, routines, money worries.
11) Loss of mental peace.
12) Codependency.
I know that my man is the very best and I happen to be the luckiest wife on the planet to have the most awesome husband who ever lived.
One more to my list :
Delusions of grandeur
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^ 
That’s not delusion of grandeur!
All I can say about my husband is that I am definitely one of the luckiest wives who are proud to have an awesome husband. I remember someone once wrote on GS which I loved is that "If me and my husband have 100 days to live then I 'll prefer to live 99 days so I can die before my husband." It was something like that but I liked it. :) Marriage lives are full of responsibilities but are full of fun.
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Nothing is perfect . . . There are responsibilities with married life and up and downs but all in all its a very nice experience. its been more than 5 years now and believe that I am happily married. If a choice given between life before and after marriage i would definitely choose married life.
Checklist for marriage :
1) Manipulation by family. 2) Mortgage debt. 3) Car debt. 4) Routine trips to the nearest super-store. 4) Desi diaspora, MIL-wife gong show. 5) Pretend this is all necessary. 6) A false sense of accomplishment. 7) Body fat. 8) Body hair. 9) Food with more oil than a freaking oil spill. 10) Lost in traditions, routines, money worries. 11) Loss of mental peace. 12) Codependency.
Well not far from reality.....!
I got burned before here for overly spouting about my happy marriage. People just dont want to hear about it! Yes, after 12 plus years, I count my blessings and thank my luckly stars each and every single day for havin such an awesome husband. Who gave me 3 awesome boys. I'd lay down my life for him. He is my knight in shining armor, my prince, my superhero all rolled into one, and He's MINE-AL_MINE!!!
Do we argue? Yup, sometimes. We have ups and downs. But all in all, even in the worst of times I know that my man is the very best and I happen to be the luckiest wife on the planet to have the most awesome husband who ever lived.
ok, so lets beat me up some....
MasAllah :=)
omg i absolute LOVE my married life and wouldn't go back to single life even if i had a choice. to be honest, being happy in married life kind of depends on how satisfied you were with your single life. for example, i see plenty of my friends whose parents were extra strict, didn't let them enjoy their college years, hang out with friends, live on campus, etc and now its like they try so soo hard to "have fun" and "live out their young desires" and its obviously too late cuz they're either married or atleast nikahed and it just doesn't work.
You pointed out something very valid. Will discuss this in a new topic in maybe a slight different mode. Thanks.
Count me in as one. Married over 10 years and we still gush over each other. We bet all sappy and mushy even if we spend one night apart. Having our daughter after 9 years of marriage seems to have made us even happier, happier than we ever expected.
Alhamdulillah.
MasAllah :=)
Nothing is perfect . . . There are responsibilities with married life and up and downs but all in all its a very nice experience. its been more than 5 years now and believe that I am happily married. If a choice given between life before and after marriage i would definitely choose married life.
Well Said. I think most are aware that there is absolutely nothing in life that is perfect so definately the idea of a good marriage is not one that is without any problems or issues.