there are lots of posts in Life & Relationship forums these days starting with these words. For example
“Lets say there is a guy…”
“Suppose I am invited at my nund…”
“Assume your friends’s wife was your X lover…”
and so on. WHAT IS THE REALITY of these kinds of posts? Have you been posting such posts although its a real life situation in your life? If yes, then what’s stopping you from posting it the proper way? or all of these threads are hypothetical threads? If these are hypostatical, does this mean people have lot of free time in hand and in some cases quite sickening imagination? I myself try to post questions of real life situations mostly happening to myself (with the exception of few posts but those posts were still real life situation).
If all these situations are hypostatical, is this forum really helping in anyway?
One of the reasons I joined GS was because some people here really earned my respect - they were sooo patient and willing to help others genuinely. Honestly, some people here have gold to offer! People here have so much to offer - they come from all sorts of walks in life.
Anyway, my point is people who open hypothetical, crazy dramatic threads should really think twice - because it might end up discouraging other people from sharing their own experiences.
So, all those people who really are there to help - thanks! :)
I'd like to believe that to an extent these are real-life questions. Maybe the thread starter realizes that ppl here are so judgmental, opinionated, so they dont' want to make it sound so direct - as if its really about them.
In other words, people wont "blame" them, but rather their imaginary "friend". So indirectly they atleast get to hear what others have to say.
It really doesnt matter to me, as long as that individual gets any information or ideas that can help them in any way.
ppl have too much free time on their hands and the ones with very-active-and-sick-imagination comes up with such stupid hypothetical threads. ofcourse they don't want anyone to go through such turmoils...but still can't stop themselves from thinking and putting someone through it in their minds. in the end, all is well that is IN THE WELL!. yani ke khota kho ichh.
I think what you have stumbled across is a real phenomenon of let's say touchy topics.
They could be touchy because they involve some sort of chess like strategy to be employed. In this mindset people are likely to present real situations as if they are merely hypothetical. But in actual fact they are not.
They are presented as so to protect themselves from undue criticism or out of a sense of prudence but could also be a way a true seeking soul will express themselves without giving too much detail away and thus uncovering too much dirt.
It also means they are looking for guidelines and not specific answers.
I maintain that this done mostly unintentionally and when it is done in this way it will help others who are in similar situations. Or it is phrased with looseness in order to prompt the analogy of other peoples experiences to surface. By making the discourse too specific it may be harder for people to know that their own experiences and mechanisms of solving the problems is being asked.
It is a thus a way to turn the specific case into a general case and it could help out more than just the thread opener.
I do not think it is a matter of hiding anything. Such threads phrased in such ways also attract more replies and people want to help, phrased other ways it could appear to be more of a statement than a plea for help.
Lets say there is a hypothetical thread about threads about hypothetical situations .... will this thread be as juicy / entertaining as ...ummm.... this thread?
