Most of you must have seen such a case in your life, of a depressed/angry person who when clicked, lets out his anger on the innocent/apparently weak people.
Unfortunately, at times It is a frustrated husband’s anger on his innocent wife or vice versa, an arrogant man’s/woman’s anger on his / her servant, a soldier’s anger on a waiter/air hostess, or a hurted person’s anger, who lets out his/her anger on a specific group of people in the form of criticizm through biased long essays against them with complete generalization.
**The Questions are: **
Is this emotional behaviour like the intense pressure of an air filled container, which needs an opening to release, otherwise it might severly damage the body in which it exists ?
If so, than why is it always released severely on innocent and weak people, who don’t have much ability/strength to respond, instead of those who actually deserve it ?
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Thats it I can not tollerate this sexist attitude any further.
why the hell it is a frustrated husband and not frustrated wife ?
and why cant it be innocent husband instead of innocent wife ?
Btw i have seen more arrogent women lashing out their anger at servents
I know very well how people defame us men as evil , dominating and bad and rediculously try to portray women all innocent. World knows very well that the reality is otherwise.
Submission to peace ! please modify your post which is reaking from sexism and insulting to peaceful, and honorable men. Or i will report it as bad post.
May Allah forgive you for hurting our sentiments
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@Code_Red. Brother I think you are right, so I have edited my post. Kindly don't report it as a bad post. I was just giving random examples. By chance the examples which came to my mind were related to men. Ofcourse, I never mean to de-grade the gender of men or women in any of my post.
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hmm…well…when im really angry…thoba :no:…i let my anger out on anyone…like today i got angry and a little kid was walkn infrontta me really slowly so i shouted in her ear “HURRY UP:mad:” and she just ran a bit and moved to one side …i dnt no…its not even like the innocent people i take my anger out on…but t’s everyone i see or comes in my way
when will i lose this temper:bummer:
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^ Oh...you should be thankul that the child was not like me, (when I used to be of his age) As in that case you would have had to bear the consequences.
p.s. Unfortunately I was a very aggressive child, according to my family and relatives.
What I recall is that there was a very intense pressure inside me and I just wanted to release it on anyone or anything. So there used to be destructions whereever I went.
Alhamdulilah it is not like that now, by the grace of Allah
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I would like to share a story with you all. Please do read it as it has a good lesson for life time.
There was a little boy with a bad temper.
His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail in the back fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.
Then it gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all.
He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.
When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.
You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there.
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When I’m mad, I do whatever it takes to keep it in…sometimes I’ll lock myself in my room…or if I’m not in the house I just try not to talk to anyone( Cuz when I do It always comes out the wrong way)
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After going through such experiences of emotions in life, I have learned that it is not good to bottle up such emotions within onself as its intensity might increase inside us with time and eventually either it releases with a "BANG!!!" or it causes high blood pressure/ other internal health problems.
The best solution is to utilize this extra energy for positive purposes. I usually run 3 or more miles a day non-stop, but when I am angry, I can run even more. Similarly, when I am very emotional or angry my level of concentration rises many folds, I can comprehend and understand easily and my stamina of learning and working also increases. Also it completely removes laziness from me.
Though I understand that my feelings and thinkings can not be applied on everyone as it varies from person to person, but we all do learn with time how to deal positively with our system, in such situations
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*The Questions are: *
Is this emotional behaviour like the intense pressure of an air filled container, which needs an opening to release, otherwise it might severly damage the body in which it exists ?
If so, than why is it always released severely on innocent and weak people, who don't have much ability/strength to respond, instead of those who actually deserve it ?
I hardly agree. I have read phsycologists claim that if anger, emotions are not vent out, there are serious effects on the personality.
I think, once one is mature enough, "anger" is personal choice.
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*if anger, emotions are not vent out, there are serious effects on the personality. *.
This sentence conveys the same meaning as the following
[quote=] 1. Is this emotional behaviour like the intense pressure of an air filled container, which needs an opening to release, otherwise it might severly damage the body in which it exists ?
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The only difference is that I stated it in the form of a question.
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sub. 2 peace - :)…i know
but…like on many occasions…easier said then done…i know that you shouldnt get mad and at the end of the day ur gna leave a wound…but …hey! atleast im tryin
I can not tollerate this sexist attitude any further.
…i dnt no…its not even like the innocent people i take my anger out on…but t’s everyone i see or comes in my way 
…issi liay mai pagal hoon
