This is about a teenager, a relative… she’s 18. She pings me today and is saying things like no-one in the family cares about me, nobody loves me, etc etc… standard teenage stuff. Then goes on to say that I wanted to go for an iftar with my friends but abbu said no. I don’t even wear jeans even though I like it, cuz abbu and my brothers don’t like it… why don’t they let me live my life, I’m not a bachi any more, etc etc.
I tried my best to re-assure her that everyone does love her and that she’s from a decent conservative family and these are petty issues she’s venting about, she should focus on her studies and all, she’s so much better off than a lot of Pakistani girls her age but she just was not listening to me anymore. She has been complaining to me off and on since a couple of years and I pacify her every time and life goes back to normal.
Another complaint she has is that her elder sister gets all the attention and she’s ignored (which is a bit true as the elder sister has mashaAllah accomplished a lot in life already, even though she’s only 23… and she’s awesome at her studies). Instead of following her example and making her a role model, this girl keeps complaining about her sister getting more attention :hinna:
I want a solution to this problem. How do I deal with this? What do I say to her to make her realize that mashaAllah she has a great dad and great siblings and a good life. She just keeps saying I want everyone to leave me alone and let me live my life 
How do I knock some sense into her?
