Let me live my life

Muzna · September 2, 2010, 8:05pm

Re: Let me live my life

Alhumdulillah I do not have this problem at my home . But sometimes my kids will complain about not having something which I cannot afford to get them.
Then I tell them please thank Allah that you have much better life then billions of people on this planet earth. Count your blessing and what you have and do not count what you do not have or cannot have and Thank Allah .

Next time give her examples of love of her parents , they provide for her clothes , her shoes , her food , provide a roof over her head.
If she gets sick they get worried and make sure that she feels better.
I am sure they must have done many things specially for her as opposed to her brothers and sister point those out. Ask her to make two lists One list of what her parents have done or do for her and let her do and other list of things they did not do for her and did not allow her.
The first list will be longer.

All of what you say is valid.
Unfortunately an eighteen year old finds this stuff pretty mundane. They seem to have this “persecution/self-pity” thing going on for a year or so.
Guilt doesn’t work. Shame doesn’t work.