Re: Lesser evil…Divorce/single parents…Bad marriage/both parents
…shirley…
Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
Okay, anybody here actually the child of divorced parents? I'd love to hear from them.....
Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
speaking from experience, option b is the greater evil.
so how was it like living in option B
option b would be sometimes physically scary stuff, verbal abuse, the parents probably live like housemates and wouldn't even want to see each other's faces b/c of the years of hurtful arguments/fights/emotional pain, the bad times to good times together are like 99 to 1. what kind of life is it?
a child would be mentally traumatized seeing that almost everyday
Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
A sounds sensical to me.
Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
life is not as black and white as portrayed in this hypothetical question. Beside other things it also depends on the eduction of parents, their economic condition and social status.
agree !
In my opinion if abuse is not there and there is just lack of understanding and compatibility then both husband and wife should stay together for kids. They both are responsible for bringing kids into this world & they both should take that responsibility.
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That does not make any difference…if your parents get divorced and remarry, imagine you are going to have 2 pair of parents 
that will be a lot of fun 
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Re: Lesser evil…Divorce/single parents…Bad marriage/both parents
My parents got divorced long time back. Father bureaucrat from DMG & mother a simple, loving yet from a well settled family. I never saw them having arguments or fights. they had a very formal but respectful relationship. Inn fact the whole divorce thing was done so silently that i had no clues about it for a longer time. Than later on Father married to a sexy modern lady who was his mate at officers academy & she is really HOT 
& my mother also remarried to one of her cousins. He too is landlord but a very kind hearted and simple person. Steps relationships doesn bother me much. Modern Mummy is also very good with me…she gives me company to parties when i am at their place or arranges parties at home :shoaby: and my step dad takes care of me like a princess 
as he has no other daughters 
I sometimes stay at my dad’s place in Islamabad and most of times with My mother in Lahore. I get huge pocket money from both of them , though i work my self too.When My parents in some family gathering meet , they talk to each other very normally & greet too. So it all looks ALRIGHT. Initially i used to feel frustrated but then i accepted the fact my parents are happy and they have made best decision and they are giving me best life. So i should be happy with this. and life is good 
And its good to be pampered by 2 pair of parents 
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Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
Like others mentioned, it is not black/white, and depends on so many factors.
What if single mother is a bad parents and is unable to cope with the responsibilities...or financially dependent?
What if parents are civil with each other but just not compatible....I dunno.
It seems option A is better if the parents are abusive, fights etc.
Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
both options seem majorly depressing, I wouldn't wish those on anybody :(
Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
Depends on how the marriage is bad?
*If it's abuse, like beating, drugs etc, then yeah, option B is worse. *
But if it's other stuff that doesn't fall into the lines of verbal/mental and physical abuse, then I think A is the wrose option.
the bold is very true.
totally agree with everything you said.
my parents had arguments but that love was still there and my father never laid a finger to hurt my mom so they had their tough times but they're still married and they've grown closer now.
but i think even that generation wouldn't have taken physical abuse.
Re: Lesser evil...Divorce/single parents........Bad marriage/both parents
Adults sometimes think that kids are clueless....but their minds are like sponges....and they're very perceptive and can pick up on tension between the parents. Islam allows divorce as a last resort....but it IS allowed....because it doesn't encourage one to willingly live in an oppressive situation.
It's hard for me to imagine that a person can be an effective parent to their child...if the marriage is dysfunctional beyond repair. If you think there's a chance the marriage can work....stay in it. If you've tried your best to no avail....then what message does that send the kids? To put up and suffer for the rest of your life? To let a situation take a toll on your physical/mental/emotional well-being and affect the quality of your life? You strive to make relationships work......but we don't live in a perfect world where every single child lives with happily married parents......and sooner or later....kids too figure out that life's not perfect. And they can see through pretenses....and sometimes that can cause more damage in the long-run. Every situation is different...and there are times when separation brings greater peace to everyone.