i agree with matinee siren- ppl ARE born with this- and its defINATELY NOT mental-- and u know what im no one to tell sumone u shuldnt b gay or a lesbian -- what ever they are -- they want to b that for a reason - i have gay guy friends and there the sweetest people i kno -- i mean they cant change their lifestlye bc of what ppl say-- and especially our desi society-- first of all i think our desi society is the one who talks MOST in all cases- so i wuld def not take them to consider- i have 2 lesbian and 1 bi-sexual friend and one of them approached me and i sed im sorry i dont swing that way but u kno what were still friends- friendship shuld not change with a person once u find out if there gay/lesbian.. i agree its totally gunah and all lekin were not the ones who decide their fate its allah- so let them b- let em enjoy their lives like the rest of us do- theyll find their compatibility sumwhere but we shuldnt neglect them for what they are... thas abt it :)