He sounds like a real piece of work. At this point and taking his lack of concern thereof into account, you should grow weary of what potential damage he has the capability of causing in future!
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Well allah ka shuker hai aal is well hehe
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aww..well atleast he got it sorted…
But yes do still throttle him for the extra tension 
i gave it all to him..because i could see he was stressed out, but i honestly expected him to at least leave the car in a good state.....
why doesn't he support you? If car is not in good condition God forbid something happens then what?
One my cousin is going through the same situation
She brought him over and they have 3 kids and he does not pay a single bill even though he works God knows how may hours.
What I found is guys from pak always give priority to their family in Pak rather than their wife and kids in foreign countries there should be balance.
you shouldn't have given him the emergency money.
Never show them the cash.
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the lesson to be learned is still there.....
have your own emergency fund.
I remember an email that used to circulate several years back. It listed some things that a smart woman has put aside.....like 3 months worth of rent etc.
Let me see if I can find that.
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This isn't exactly what I was talking about but it covers some of this important things:
A Woman Should Have .....
Enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...
A Woman Should Have ......
Something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A Woman Should Have .....
A youth she's content to leave behind....
A Woman Should Have ......
A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....
A Woman Should Have .......
A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
A Woman Should Have ......
One friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A Woman Should Have ......
A good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
A Woman Should Have ......
Eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honoured...
A Woman Should Have ......
A feeling of control over her destiny.
Every Woman Should Know .....
How to fall in love without losing herself.
Every Woman Should Know .....
How to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship...
Every Woman Should Know .....
When to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
Every Woman Should Know .....
That she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
Every Woman Should Know .....
That her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...
Every Woman Should Know .....
What she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
Every Woman Should Know .....
How to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
Every Woman Should Know .....
Whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally.. ..
Every Woman Should Know .....
Where to go, be it to her best friend's kitchen table, or a charming inn in the woods; when her soul needs soothing...
Every Woman Should Know .....
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...a month...and a year...
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Muzna baji :k:
P.S Pyare in the end as you said AAL IZZ WELL, but i would like to just reiterate what a lot of others already said, always have money for yourself, u never know when u might need it.
last night my brother turns up at my house, and gives me his car keys and asks for mine..i asked him why..then he tells me that my husband had booked my car in at a garage for today and told my brother to oversee the repairs and also left him with some cash and also his credit card................ aaaaaaaaaah why did he not tell me and why did he watch me suffer........i'm so annoyed with him, relieved but annoyed. every time i would mention the car he'd say fikar nai karo ho jaye ga...not once did he tell me that he'd already made the arrangements.
psquared my husband has never been like this, thats why i was so upset and hurt that he would ' leave in the lurch' but he didn't he just did not want to give me any stress (so he says) not knowing how stressed out i already was.
diwana.....i think i will definitely throttle him on his return now...lol
so in the end all izz well!!!!!! Inshallah i will have my car back by the end of today or tomorrow and not be out of pocket. thanks for the advice and support guys
I think he wanted to surprise you and wanted to make you realize his importance , also he wanted to make sure that you are well taken care of. He knew that you will not be able to take care of the car , so he assigned this job to your brother.
He is a keeper take care of him well after he is back.
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Eye opener for girls and guys (specially for girls).
Put "aaah we are two body but one soul" crap aside for a second and make sure that both husband and wife have separate accounts for emergency (you can have a joined account for everyday business). if you are a stay home mom, make sure you get monthly allowance/pocket money and deposit it to your emergency account. You can always help your partner to some extent when he/she is in need but to broom out every single penny is not a good idea.
and now for pyaare, how long he has not been to Pakistan and what were the obstacle for him not going to Pakistan before? Although his actions can not be justified by any mean, but i know couple of guys who were forced by their bitter half to not visit Pakistan for around 7/8 years and when they got a chance ...they visited Pakistan BIG TIME ....wasting all the money etc.
last night my brother turns up at my house, and gives me his car keys and asks for mine..i asked him why..then he tells me that my husband had booked my car in at a garage for today and told my brother to oversee the repairs and also left him with some cash and also his credit card................ aaaaaaaaaah why did he not tell me and why did he watch me suffer........i'm so annoyed with him, relieved but annoyed. every time i would mention the car he'd say fikar nai karo ho jaye ga...not once did he tell me that he'd already made the arrangements.
psquared my husband has never been like this, thats why i was so upset and hurt that he would ' leave in the lurch' but he didn't he just did not want to give me any stress (so he says) not knowing how stressed out i already was.
diwana.....i think i will definitely throttle him on his return now...lol
so in the end all izz well!!!!!! Inshallah i will have my car back by the end of today or tomorrow and not be out of pocket. thanks for the advice and support guys
That is good news.
He was not such a careless or irresponsible after all as it seemed earlier.
He just didn't tell you or had not had a chance to find the solution by the time you asked him.
Feed him garam samosay , biryani and a home made sweet dish when he comes back. ;)
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get a job.
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Glad it worked out for you. But its jus a lesson for us women. Always have spare cash because you jus never know.
And Muzna that email is so true.
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I think he wanted to surprise you and wanted to make you realize his importance **
there's definitely an element of surprise which could have resulted in a heart attack
from now on i will definitely be keeping a emergency fund,well said muzna baji,
decent chora: he visits Pakistan every 2 years, which is not as frequent as it should be, as his parents are back home...but no way would i restrict him from going and 7-8 years is way too long.
Inshallah i will be better prepared the next time, and will make sure the car, and household are fully serviced and in working order before he leaves.
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You don't even have a credit card? Weird!
I'm really surprised at the number of housewives who don't have credit cards.
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Pyaare I am so happy for you, that everything worked out well. Inshallah all will be well. Focus on yourself and your children whilst your husband is away.