after years of being abused i have finally found the courage to leave my husband, but it requires lots of planning and financial considerations and i have very little support
plz pray for me, i intend to leave him as soon as i have found a suitable place to live…plz need moral support from all of u as i am still very frightened and my self confidence is very low
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He abuses you verbally or physically? Has any of your family member tried to speak to him? How many years has it been to your marriage? Do you have kids? Where are your parents?
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Good luck hun.....I know it's very difficult but stay strong and remember why you're doing this.
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yes,verbally, physically and emotionally, my father's passed away and i dont have any siblings,cant understnd y and plz dnt judge me on this , but never had the courage to speak up to my family, but all his family knows but they didnt do much..... I m so broken.... I know i should have left years ago but his threats to kill my mother and child if i leave stopped me, and no.... No authorities cmg to my rescue, this is Pakistan
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You live only once and physical abuse is below humanity . Good luck .
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You just need to be strong and believe that life has more good to offer to you than before. I am sure that is the case for you!
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leave him. Any man who puts his hands on a woman is scum at best. And dont for one minute feel any guilt. Youre the victim. Its him who is in the wrong. But the biggest pieces of crap are his khaandan for allowing this to happen knowing full well what is going on
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I would never say that you should stay with abusing husband, but my friend the rest of the world is as cruel as your husband. If I were you, I would find a job, have some money stashed away, as you know once you are out, you will never be able to go back, its one way street. Do you have kids? Do you have enough money to live at least 6 months, would you file for divorce? Do you live in western world? Do you have a plan about how much money needed and vs how much you have. Again once you are out, no one, I mean absolutely no one will care for you, you would be alone. There are so many unknown, I'm not sure this is the answer until you have answer for some of the stuff, especially money.
Another trick males try, once you are out and they found no one to curse on, they do anything to bring you back, do you have enough courage to say NO, cause once you are back, abuse will only increase.
I will pray that you get peace within the home and you don't have to look elsewhere.
May Allah show us the right path and encourage us to follow it through.
All the Best!!
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If leaving him was the last and the best option and you are mentally prepared for what side effects it will have on you than good enough, go ahead. Allah behtar karay ga.Inshallah.
And dont worry about anything or what other would think, be supportive of your ownself.After the darkest night comes the brightest day.
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Peace Touche
Go to this network if you have not already done so …
Madadgaar <<< Link
They are the only hotline for abused women in Pakistan (I think) - based in Karachi … They can provide support, inshaAllah.
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Sorry to hear 
Wish you all the best. May happiness come back in your life. And don’t worry about being judged, you aren’t doing a wrong thing.
Your husband and his family will get their punishment.
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prayers with u.
do u have childreN?
allah knows best xx
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May Allah protect and guide you in your efforts.
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aww, I can not even begin to imagine what you must be feeling right now! hugs but yes I can pray for you! and I truly pray Allah gives you the patience and courage to fight this situation, Ameen. I dont even know what more to say but what I can say is having 100% faith in allah will give you alot of solace, and you have to believe you are a strong woman! :) all the best hun, with every dark night there ARE brighter days xxxx
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May Allah keep you safe, and grant you a peaceful life, you sound like you have been through a lot, my well wishes are with you.
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As long as you're at peace with it, stick to your decision. Hard part is sticking to it. Harder to be alone sometimes instead of being with abusive company.
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i'll pray for you and iA you will sail through the rough waters with the help of Almighty Allah...!!! Good Luck and don't feel you are lonely kiuN k:
jiskaa koii nahiiN uskaa to Khudaa hotaa hai! :)
Thinking of you. May ALLAH give you the strength to get through this x
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good luck 
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it's a lot tougher for you because of your father's death. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had the right words, just know I care since i have gone through abuse in a relationship as well but all cases are different and so i don't know what you've gone through. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. You are strong enough to make your life better for yourself and your loved ones. the fact that you tried your hardest to make it work and hoped the abuse would eventually stop showed that you gave it all you could but relationships aren't going to survive if only one side does all the trying to make a marriage/relationship work. It's like that saying, i'm paraphrasing here but making this bold move to leave this abusive life doesn't mean that you are giving up, it means that you are strong enough and smart enough to let go of the abuse for a better life hugs Stay strong and may Allah guide you while you take this courageous step, remember you don't want your child to grow up in such an abusive, volatile environment so you are doing it so your child can have a better future as well.