I met up with a couple of old friends recently and realised they are old friends and not current ones…when we were young we used to do the same things…meet after school…play some pool and chat up girls at the town centre…
The annoying thing is that they are still doing the same things…iv devloped myself a bit…got an education…worked and stuff like that…and have generally had a desire to do new things…and what i find is i had nothing to talk to them about…i didnt feel comfortable talking about my degree or when i went to the theatre or stuff like that…things which they dont do…lol the only time we talked properly was when i spoke about my girl…only then did the conversation develop and it was the same 15 yr olds conversation of whether she gave me h@@@ lol…I really want to rekindle the friendship becuase we shared a lot when we were young but we just dont have anything in common anymore…and we do completely different things…my idea of a meal is going to a restuarant an getting a meal…theres is still Dallas chicken like it was when we were 16…the only change is that they can actually get into clubs with ID now that they’re older…the only fun thing was discussing old things and thats a shame…They probably were as dissapointed as me…their issue is probably that i have changed and mine is that they havent…its just a shame that you drift from those you forever thought would be your friends…
Re: Leaving behind old friends...
ppl change with time , some dosent .some find new hobbies n intressts some dosent..u dont have to leave em if u have grown up (mentaly) n dont do same things as they do .u can still keep in touch with em n be friends .
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i feel the same sometimes NBN
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It's true NBN, I've often come across old friends and found that all we really talk about is the past...
However, I don't think of this as being a negative thing as such - they are like a gateway to forgotten memories
It's like someone mentioning an advert we all used to like...or a song that we waited for on TOTP...or something really funny that happened at school but the memory of which has diluted over time...and it triggers a whole host of other memories...
Though they may never really be a part of my future per say, these people were and always will be a part of a particular time in my life and perhaps that's where they meant to stay in the grand scheme of things
It's like stepping back in time meeting them and I think it's actually kinda nice
:)
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I believe I've experienced something similar. I can't remember what set of friends it were, but I met them after a very long time and there wasn't much we could talk about and I felt very uneasy around them.
I suppose that's how life is like.