Re: Leader or follower?
Thanks all...so very much!
I really think I should get into more details here...about why I'm so worried and all. My boys are SO very good and SUCH model citizens, even the eldest who has learning delays...but middle one like I was saying, has issues about acceptance which make him "forget" about doing the right thing.
He went on a playdate yesterday to a friends house. Thats his best friend at school but there have been issues before - this boy pushes the limit and encourages improper behavior at times. Yet I have met his mom and like her. They use a live in nanny too. And there have been a number of very nice playdates - her house then my house etc. The boys is spirited to the extreme and he has a brother who is 6 years older and a sister who is 9 years older. So this kid is more mature and has had exposure to things that I dont really want mine to have. So yeah this is all back to me and needless to say, no more playdates at this kids house and yeah I was deficient in my vigilance.
What exactly happened? These boys really like 2 gals in their class - twins. The twins went to the playdate with the 2 boys. And the host boy convinced my son that they should show the girls their "pee pees". My son KNEW this was wrong. Yet he did it. He did it quickly and with embarrassment but well, he DID it. I am heartbroken over it...not that I said this to my son. I told him that he was SOOO very wrong and it was even more wrong because he KNEW it was wrong to do.
I cant talk about this too much to him otherwise he thinks its going to be on the evening news...but this is a very serious thing yeah? I mean, if I was the mom of the girl twins, I'd be on a rampage.
Anyway for now...middle son will never go to this boy's house again. I would allow the boy to come here after a while because it will be good practice for my son to teach HIM how to behave properly. I NEVER leave the kids alone for this type of thing to happen and I was just horrified that in a house that has not only a stay-home mom but ALSO a live-in nanny - that something like this was allowed to transpire. I am far too upsset about the whole thing to be able to decide what to do - whether to call the mom and confront, whether to call the mom of the twins and apologize...I will calm down a bit and then take it to the next step.
But THATS what I mean about "forgetting" the rules and wanting acceptance yeah?