All these threads of evil in-laws, ass.hole husbands etc are just scaring the crap outta me. I think I’ll stick to being single now :halo: Shukria
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tell me about it...
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Sara who told you to listen to these cry babies. Marriage is a lot of fun, dont give up so easily...dont you want someone you can control the rest of your life? :)
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With all these stories I’ve heard, it’s the girl who’s controlled 
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As they say, you can't clap with one hand. I am sure those who have problems, they are not that inoocent themselves either. They must be doing something wrong too. The only way things can go better is that both parties sit down and discuss the differences and fill the gaps.
If you start yelling at me, I must've done something that caused you to do that. If I am minding my own business and you are minding your own business, why would we argue? Things would go smoothly. This world is not perfect. On gupshup, we only get to hear one side of the story, just keep that in mind.
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hey kaleem! who u calling cry babies???
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THATS SO HARSH!
HOW COULD YOU SAY THAT, U R NOT A WOMAN AND HAVNT GONE THROUGH THE PROBLEMS THAT BEATEN UP HOUSEWIFES (LIKE ME) WENT THROUGH, JUST TO STAY MARRIED
SHIKRA, ONLY MY ALLAH AND I KNOW IF I HAVE DONE ANYTHING WRONG,
BELIEVE ME, IN PK IT ONLY TAKES ONE TO CLAP YR HANDS, AS PAKI LIVING IN-LAWS R INTO BLACK MAGIC AND FULL OF ****
SO NEXT TIME U JUDGE SUM1, ZARA SOCH LENA
U HAVE UPSET ME KNOW
MY EX-HUBBY NEVER WANTED TO SIT AND EVEN TALK TO ME, I KNOW OTHER GUPPIES WILL AGREE WITH ME, AS THEY HAVE TOLD ME SIMILIAR STORIES
HE TALKED TO HIS OWN FAMILY OF SMALL AND IRRELEVANT ISSUES, BUT NEVER ABOUT IMPORTANT ISSUES ABOUT US.
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What am I missing here. Whats all the shouting about? Was there any post of yours deleted?
What was so harsh about what he said. I think he offered a balanced view. Just because you suffered does not mean every women in Pakistan suffers. No body is denying that husbands abuse wives but that does not mean all men are like that.
All in laws are in to black magic? Were your in laws in to black magic ?
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meeni - get a grip, no one singled you out. Shikra said something that made sense. We only do hear one side of the story here.
Sara - When it is right, it is right. Seriously, take your time and really get to know the person you wish to marry and everything will work out. I don't understand the fixation with marriage and being engaged that you have right now, but if God/Allah determines you are ready, it will happen. Relax, enjoy life, concentrate on your goals and the rest will follow. Don't let others determine how you want your life to go, especially in the area of marriage. If my husband listened to his family or if I had listened to some ex-friends of mine, we never would have married and it turned out fine.
It takes time is all.
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koi aurat in her right mind apna ghar chor ke nehi jati,
i was driven out of my own house, and have had to live through hell,
in my 6yrs of marriage, we stayed together for only 2, b'coz of my in-laws(ex was emotionally blackmailed my his family, and also black magic was in force)
if i die today, i will not be scared, because i know that i was the perfect housewife, daughter-in-law, bhabhi etc, i know its hard to believe, but its true
as for the fact that i wasnt singled out, i have been in touch with other guppies, via email,pm etc and we all share the same view
sorry i got all angry and upset, i guess i am still cut up about myself inside.i guess i need more time to heal
the paindoo; yes my in-laws were in to black magic, burning stuff and cords wrapped around the neck etc
i thought i got over this but i guess time will heal all wounds
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And I’ve proven my point.
You are shouting at me because I did something that caused that reaction and made you all upset. Have I not said anything, you wouldn’t be shouting at me for no reason. See the point? There is a reason behind everything that happens. I am sorry to hear what your in-laws did to you, but you must’ve done something that made them do it. I am not judging you but I am saying something that’s common sense and logical. If someone is upset with you (in general), there must be something along the way that you’ve done to upset them. Otherwise, why would they want to be upset with you when you haven’t even done anything to upset them 
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LOL not all sas are like witche’s LOLZZZZZZZZZZZZ
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SHIKRA;
at the moment, i am in a position where i am single again, i have a child to raise, who was also kidnapped by my in-laws, i lived in conditions which are equal to being in (confined)prison, i have had near death experiences, i also comtemplated suicide, i even harmed myself, i lived in conditions where there was no food or water, and no milk for my child
despite all this, i never shouted/raised my voice/swore or was rude towards any1 on my ex's side, they used to take from me what they wanted, and i wouldnt so much as sigh, they were treated like royalty by me,whether my ex was present or not.
The only reason i spoke up is because, i was put on drugs (which were supposed to make me better) but which had adverse reactions, and i apposed to taking them and was sent to uk for female treatment, thats when 'they' sent me the text, and i was free
the reason they hated me was that i didn't react to their hated in any negative way(in one ear and out the other, as instructed by my ex)
so no, SHIKRA.........................it seems thats i havn't done anything to upset them.
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chill everyone.... Meeni hon screw you inlaws and your ex, he was a jerk(most men are, its a fact :D) be single, enjoy life!
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yeah thanks rimsh! i think i am starting to enjoy my newly found freedom now
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meeni, be grateful you were strong enough to get yourself out of that kind of environment. I know of girls who are also stuck in such families and are too afraid to walk away, resulting in a life of resentment and misery (and yes, despite what people here may believe, such evil and cruel people do exist). As rimsh says, enjoy your new found freedom.
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u r right, it could have been worse, thanks mehnazQ