When last time I visited Pakistan, and was styaing in my cousion`s house in Karachi, We invited in a marriage cermoney of another cousion ( not first cousion ).
In first I was little excited and showed some interest to join the marriage party, but latter I plitely refused, reasons were few…
Its just my 3rd visit in last 25 years to Pakistan, I know some of my close first cousions and there family, not know much about far relatives, so I thought may be I get bored and also make bore or keep reserve my hosting cousion…
The Food in cermoney must be oily or speciy, and recently I had an attack of minor food posioning…
This thired reason make me more feel uneasy when I heard the Party or Barat come around 11pm :aq: its mean we should left house around 10pm, and come back home around 1:00AM Late Mid night…
So I decide to better stay at home…
My hosting cousion family go out to attend the party, when they come back the time was 2:00 night… both of there kids were sleleping and carry out them from car, my uncle was looks so tired too, and my cousion`s wife look like she come back from a war zone…
Is It Normal In Pakistan… late night wedding parties ??
while the situtation in Pakistan about voilance specially in krachi is so BAD…
I heard latter that in cases come back home late night usualy SOME THING HAPPEN… or there is a fear of it…
What’s fantastic is they go to these shaadis with all this gold and they’re clear targets at 2 am coming home from some wedding. You think robbers don’t know when they’re most likely going to score?
Last time was there, we all wore burqas the wedding and back; just to hide the fact that we had been to a wedding.
Being on time is the biggest problem in Pakistan. May be we don't value time that much. We have the same issue with few Pakistani students here on campus. They think being on time is against they honor or something. Being on time is more like a cultural issue now.
they've now passed an ordinance where the shadi cant go on past 11pm... this is a serious problem since thats even earlier than the time the guests start arriving!
It not that being on time is an issue. It's been years now... all wedding related events take place at night. If the barat came at 11pm.... that's about right. There was a meNhdi few days ago in Karachi and the laRkay waaley came at 2pm.
I don't know if I ever go to Pakistan and have to attend a shaadi, qasam say, haalat bohat patli hogi. Will have to sleep in daytime to get some sleep in so we could be up during the night.
i think finishing so late is not good...especuially with lil kids and also people have been at work and its just tiring...i understand if its in the summer cos its cooler...but otherwise i dont think its a good idea...and imagine the poor bride and groom having to wait til 11pm to get married..i mean what do they do during the day? id rather get it over n done with 7pm finish at the latest!!!
I am sorry… I mis-typed. It was 2am. subha do bajey laRkay waaley aaey. Why don’t these events in Pakistan take place at regular times? This is so weird. Why do events have to start after 7 or 8 pm? Don’t people have to go to work the next day if the events are on Sunday? I don’t know. I guess you get used to the place and the local traditions when you live in a place. Anything and everything becomes a point of debate for outsiders.
they've now passed an ordinance where the shadi cant go on past 11pm... this is a serious problem since thats even earlier than the time the guests start arriving!
hahaah spock, so right.
it was just getting later and later.
I had heard wedings where the ruqsatti was not until 2 a.m.
Upon that I had recommended that they term ishaiya be changed to tahajjuda.
or just frikkin serve breakfast instead.
its an issue with desis here as well, but usually they have some time to clear out the hall by and that helps. from my perspective, unless it is someone very close to me, I leave at a time that suits me.
they've now passed an ordinance where the shadi cant go on past 11pm... this is a serious problem since thats even earlier than the time the guests start arriving!
No, it's not a problem. This is exactly what needs to happen. There is obviously something going on here. This is not relegated to some families or some people. This is a nationwide phenomena. People there just have too much time on their hands... is about the only thing I can think of. It just does not make sense.
why can't events take place at 6pm, 7pm or 8pm? Why do they have to happen so late? People don't start arriving till late... you said. so why hold up the event? or why not start bugging those people to find out what's holding them up? People arrive late knowing they'll be way early if they come in before "time". bheiR ki chaal chaltey haiN sab.
