As I walked up to the steps of my building there was this frail young lady sitting at the foot of the stairs crying her eyes out. So I asked her what was wrong and she just sobbed and sobbed whilst holding on to my shoulder.
She said she was waiting for someone and he hadn’t come yet, and she’s stuck here, it’s like 10:30 in the night, dark, extremely windy and he’s still not here…he promised to be here 2 hours ago. So I let her use my fone…no reply, she sent him an sms, no reply, I waited with her for 15 mins, nothing.
While we waited she proceeded to tell me how this guy, her fiancée always asks her to show up at certain places and then makes her wait for extremely long stretches and ignores her calls. She says he calls her paranoid, in my opinion he’s just a plain idiot.
I’ve been in a similar situation where I waited for my “date” to show up and he was late and never bothered apologizing. Fortunately he was picking me up from home, but in her case this guy seems to make her wait in places that are quite lonely. Just goes to show how unthoughtful he is.
I felt real bad for her, I know this guy won’t change and she’s not gonna leave him for this “late” habit. It’s frustrating, waiting, especially in a lonely place. I had to go up later, and I hope when that idiot fiancée of hers arrived that she gave him a good blasting!
Do guys thing that if they make you wait in a lonely place that you’ll be happier to see them when you do…that you’re more likely to throw your arms around them and cry and just be happy that they’re there.
My friend is in a similar situation. They'll go out somewhere and if she says anything to upset him, he'll literally throw her out the car and just drive off. Once, he left her up in this extremely secluded area up in the woods. What did she do? She sat there for 5 hours till the middle of the night, ALONE, and just waited for him. Eventually, he came back after her 'punishment' was over.
In her case, this has been going on for about 7 years.
Nah, just ignorant, selfish boys do this. Maybe this is his idea of fun to leave her out like that. I wonder why he is still her fiancee, does her family know what is going on?
Dunno yaar she isn;t my pal or anything, just a stranger I saw near my building.
Yeah I guess guys do use it as punishment. My so called "date" once made me wait 5 hours and I had no way and no money to get home, and then he decided he wasn't coming..switches off his fone, luckily God gave me 2 legs and I walked it...couldn't tell me folks coz I knwo my mom would've slaughtered him.
Next day I caught him outside his office and gave him a piece of my mind, along with three good hearty stomps on the foot with my six inch stilletoes.
if its the first, even second or third time he's done this, then i feel sorry for her. but if he makes this a habit, then she should beat the siht out of him after she smacks herself for being such a dumbass for being with this guy. what type of idiot loser guys woudl do this intentioanlly?
Mehnaz---im appalled...he left her in a secluded area like that? God forbid, what if she'd been raped or murdered? Then what? then he would be happy "hey she got her punishment" or live a lifetime fo guilt? would serve the idiot good for abandoning her like that...
Sara, trust me, that's nothing compared to other stuff he's done to her. At this point, she has very little sympathy from others cause there is absolutely nothing stopping her from walking away ... except herself. She's addicted to this cycle of abuse that she's in.
^ It's easy to get frustrated at someone who's deliberately hurting themselves but ppl have to understand...not everyone has the same choices, to walk away, to dump someone whos treating them like dirt..heck they dont even have any self esteem left so that they think they're acutally worthy of a decent person...many in abused situations lack any confidence or respect for themselves and that's exactly what the abuser does.....damn sorry for going offtopic..
I am very punctual and I get everywhere on time. If I am ever more than 10 minutes late, I always call. So it's not all the guys, it really depends. I've seen girls where they've made the guy wait for hours. So, it goes both ways.
yeah i'm acutally very punctual too...but the fact he does it ALL THE TIME and on purpose too and in the circumstances described above...that's where the guy deserves a kick in the nuts, seriously.....i dont know any girls who would be cruel enough to throw their guy out of the car and leave them on some stranded street...but those who r liek that should also be slapped a few times as well....gosh i feel so violent readingthese...
next time he calls her and asks her to meet up, agree to the rendevouz and DON'T SHOW UP make him sweat a little. if he rings ignore his calls, infact change ur number or get a new sim. if he comes around her flat/house etc don't open the door and if he shows' some mardanagi call the police and have a restraining order put in place and finally ditch the bandar warna long and painful life after marriage zindabad. her choice BUT i just made it easy for her.
