Sajno tay mitro, behno tay behno day bravo, asalamalaikum
why is it like this in pakistani system kay larki ki maaN larki ki shaadi say 10 saal pehlay uska jahaiz collect karna shuru karti hai.
I have been observing many pak families, and jo AuntiaN hoti hain wo das saal pehlay cheezain khareed rahi hoti hain like
grinder machine
pateelay
pressureucooker
sofay ka set
fridge
color tv
aik bara sa sandookra jis mai kam say kam 40 joray hongay
aisa kiyoN hota hai? why cant larki walay give her some amount of money kay ye lo 2 million , jayo beti aish karo ja kar lasvegas..aur juwa khelo
Aisa kiyo hota hai? I just dont get it.
I was watching this commercial on ptv prime, and this HELPING HANDS ppl were coming and saying donate money to us so we can buy jahaiz for the ones that need it inpoor countries…
So ye suwal un sab shaadi shura larkioN kay liye hay..kay aya unkay saath bi aisa hoa? unka kya experience hain jahaiz wise.
BK generally people don't have loads of savings laying around so they keep buying things bit by bit. That way it's not too much of a burden for them to buy everything at the time of the wedding.
kiyun hota hai pata nahi. magar agar aap ko itni takleef hai tau khud mat karna na. ya agar aap larkay ho tau mat lena larki se. mana kar dena. ya agar aapki koi beti hai tau mat dena usko. ya agar aap kisi larkay ke abbay hain to mana kar dena. aise sawal uthanay walay sab se ziyada laalchi log hotay hein.
*First of all let me tell u that the females parent and females who gather stuff and money for dowry is very wrong. *
*Wat u people dont understand is that u are following the hindu culture. *
*You shud remember that u are muslims first and then pakistanis. *
*It is very sad to see people totally ignorant of islamic teachings. *
*According to islam the man is the provider. It is the man responsibility and duty to take care of the needs of his wife. *
*THe wife sacrifices everything and comes and lives with his husband. She leaves all her family and live with her husband. The man doesnt. *
*So it was decided that man shud be the one who gives dowry to the woman as a gift. It is the right of the woman. *
*Logically speaking many women do not work and earn. So y do paki add burden on her. Y do u gather utensils and other household stuff. Every mans house has all the essentials to lead a life. There is no point of giving the daughter the same things which she will ultimately get in her new home. Its really stupid. *
*To my surprise i found tht the woman giving dowry only happens in INDIA and Pakistan. All over the world it is the guy who is supposed to give dowry and not the woman. It is a shame. Pakistanis and indian muslims shud b ashamed of themselves for indulging and in such acts and making the life of all a living hell inorder to keep up with the disgusting culture. *
*I wud advice all of u to spread this message and educate ur parents and friends and relatives abot this serios mattter. We need to bring an end to this unislamic and inhumane practice followed by pakistanis. Hope u all will take an active part in spreading this message all over. *
^ You pretty much got it all covered there dude, right on. :k: Just that the delivery still has some room for improvement.
If the girl’s parents want to give a gift to their daughter out of love, they are most welcome. They should not however be obliged to do so and definitely cannot be forced to. The bridegroom’s family have NO right to expect or ask for even a penny of dowry.
The man is the provider for the family yes, but that don’t mean the woman cant provide either. Hazrat Bibi Khadijah (RA) was a businesswoman herself and she singlehandedly ran the business handed down to her by her family. Please dont for a second think that Islam considers women to be weak enough to be unable to make a living. They are just as capable mashallah (right ladies???)
Babakhan bhai, as for why the girl’s mothers insist on collecting everything everything beforehand, think of it as foresight. Those people who are unfortunately still tied up with this evil dowry system have no other way to wed their girls off unless they give all the gifts demanded by the guy’s family. Most people are pretty poor and they need time to gather all that loot. Inability to provide all the stuff demanded by the guy’s family often leads to the guy not going ahead with the marriage, which by itself is like taking the girl’s family’s honour down 40 notches (another extremely evil practice). Most people in rural Pakistan and India, not so surprisingly, still believe that if theyre unable to wed their girl off they will go to Hell after they die. Kon sikhaaiy unhay ab?
what a BS reply. PCG you talk as if u have answer to all the problems of this world. Why dont u email kondalina rice and send her ur CV for white house internal advisor for the cleanin department.
Those people who are unfortunately still tied up with this evil dowry system have no other way to wed their girls off unless they give all the gifts demanded by the guy’s family. Most people are pretty poor and they need time to gather all that loot. Inability to provide all the stuff demanded by the guy’s family often leads to the guy not going ahead with the marriage, which by itself is like taking the girl’s family’s honour down 40 notches (another extremely evil practice). Most people in rural Pakistan and India, not so surprisingly, still believe that if theyre unable to wed their girl off they will go to Hell after they die. Kon sikhaaiy unhay ab?
what a BS reply. PCG you talk as if u have answer to all the problems of this world. Why dont u email kondalina rice and send her ur CV for white house internal advisor for the cleanin department.