Larki bari "fayshanable" hai

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Jeez you so fashionavailable :p

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personally i love ppl who dress up and love to dress up and do all that fun girly stuff .. and i know what u mean by when she said " fashionable".... i've seen some desis too that are like that who say this... mostly why they say this i think is cuz there jelouse of you bein all nice and lookin all nice and pretty. Umm we use to have a paindu kinda women in our neighbhour and she would alwayz come to my mom and be like " why do u wear lipstick all the time ?" and we were like whw she's really weird and messed up ... The reason why she alwayz said that was cuz her own husband didnt like her to wear any lipstick .. so she would alwayz get jelouse of my mum.

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You could be right. I think the way she said it irked me “hum kya batayenge logon ko, ke larki bari fayshanable hai”. :mad:

Yeah, I know…you would think I shouldnt be bothered by this but for some stupid reason I am.

Another valid point…why would I want to be considered seedhi? I think because thats what people are looking for and being anything but that is usually looked upon as bad. Maybe I felt like I wasnt fitting into a certain image of a simple girl.

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Reha..don't pay attention to these kind of people. You are beautiful and carry yourself positive..you should be proud of this fact. I think aunties only say that because they have different image in their minds as to how a girl suppose to look like. Quiet stupid i must say.

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Atleast you didn't get 'fashion-label' which sounds even weirder! Seriously don't worry about it, this person just seems confused. It is nice to dress, so do whatever makes you feel good about yourself.

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Well the aunty wanted someone which OP is not........its good that aunty made her intentions clear......

To the OP if someone expects something which you are not that makes them stupid?
(the way she commented is obviously wrong but suppose she would've said in some polite mannger then?)...........

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Some people can never be happy. Just eff it. (talking bout the aunty here).

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Aunty always have som issue larki fashion karai phr b masla na karai phr b masla , most of the desi aunties got motii demakh n were kinda jealous bcoz they didnt get a chance to do these kinda fashions in their early life .. :D

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u didnt get her point ... as u didnt know ABCD aunties so u wont even imagine what she is talking abt ...

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If you are looking better than your prospective SAAS, you are fay-shun-eaay-bal or maaad-run

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It's better to ignore desi aunties. They are bad for your health.....

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Peace Reha

I would trust your gut instinct here. Why would you be called fashionable if you were wearing decent clothes, even more so than what they themselves are used to? It is a question worth asking.

The only conclusion I can make it to be and it has been hinted on earlier by el topo, but I'll be clearer. It has nothing whatsoever to do with your attire or clothes. Nope. It will be about your level of confidence and self-determination. It will be a judgment on how you choose to define yourself, with your attitude, behaviour and remarks. To hide this comment people often use "code language" and state this "fayshanable" term probably in a slur or intended sarcasm.

We can rule out the idea that it might be a "nice" statement, 'cos then she would not say "larki barri" these two words set the tone.

Remember marriage in the minds of many desi families is either:

a) How 'hiring' her will benefit our business (family)
b) How to protect our son from being taken over by her family 'business'.

It is a transaction. The product being "service", "mental servitude" and "authority"

They don't acknolwedge or care much about people living their lives together. It is all about "power". You obviously seem to be too powerful for them hence you are called "fayshanable".

Don't you think?

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Really?

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Well yes ... I think the sliding scale goes like this:

1) Pata nahein wo apne aap ko kya samajtee hai
2) Larki barri fayshanable hai
3) Larki kaafi fashionable hai
4) Wo smart, theek thaak hai
5) itnee achee lagrahee thee, maan se

This is in increasing level of 'pasand'

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Hmm not really, it depends on the tone...I can say "larki bari fashionable hai" and still mean it in a good way....maybe its just poor choice of words on the other persons' part...

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:k:

Psyah bro U hit the nail on the head ! :D***

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:k:

Psyah bro U hit the nail on the head ! :D***

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Quoted for Truth.

@Sara: Of course, saying it like "Larki Bari" is basically a taunt...

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Thank you Hassan, I guess I need to just let this one go.

Fashion-label? What is that?

I guess making your point with tact is fine and if Im not what they’re looking for…fine as well. Notice Im not really complaining about the rejection itself here…that I do not care too much about…although Im not sure why. Isnt that supposed to bother me more? :hmmm:

What I have an issue with is…the perception where if someone bothers with their appearance…it makes them less of a candidate. Most girls I know of take care of themselves and I dont see anything wrong with that. If a girl enjoys looking nice…she is now maaaaadrun?

BINGO. I think you said it and I wasnt sure until you said it. Yeah, I am more…outspoken on certain topics than a lot of girls might be. I was never and will never be the unsure-of-herself type that gets pushed around. I have been called things like “bold” and “confident” before…always by desi people who are trying to insinuate I shouldnt be like that. It kind of hurts at times but what am I to do? Pretend to be something I am not? Not worth it.

Im not trying to toot my own horn here. However, a fact is a fact. When you go through ups and downs in life, you develop a surity about yourself you might not find very common. You dont take garbage from people as easily as you used to.

I think the issue was that we were having a discussion about a man’s role and a woman’s role in a marriage. I am all about the partnership thing. I want to help my husband in every aspect of life…work, kids, money, etc etc etc. I want to know what is happening, how my household is being run, how we’re paying the bills, what we’re planning for the future, etc. This bhabi’s husband was opposed to that…saying its not a woman’s job to know such things. As long as she has a roof over her head, clothes to wear and food to eat…what business is it of her’s how he’s paying for it? This was my ex-husband’s mentality…and when the guy said this…I literally saw RED. No, I didnt fight with him but I did say…there is nothing wrong with giving a woman the respect she deserves.

Im a loud mouth arent I?

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Well...you shouldn't make it in issue....now your views didn't match with hers why should that be an issue??
what is considered by you as 'bother about appearance' or 'enjoys looking good'.....is not what everyone considers it to be.......so different things mean different things to different people.......you were not her type....what you consider to be normal may be abnormal for her......may be what she consider normal is too paindu/ungroomed or whatever for u..

so what i would say is....it just should be considered as a part of the 'rishta/match' finding process....