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I speak english/urdu and they speak english/kutchi. A lot of the time it's kutchi. I find it a little rude that they speak kutchi in front of me when they know i cant understand it.
I am in the same boat. My in laws are also
kutchi speaking. My MIL would talk to my husband in kutchi and he's answer her in Urdu. Was it annoying in the beginning? Yes. Now, 14 years later...meh. I have bigger fish to fry.
You have to learn to pick your battles.
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With my parents they speak English. Their english is really good as theyve grown up in england. I do find it a rude especially when in the thick of it I can hear my name. In 3 months I have picked up a little. I can understand more than I can speak it. I think I am gonna speak to my husband about it. I mean I mentioned yesterday how his mum said something in kutchi and I heard my name and he did 'did she'? How is it men don't hear the same things women do! I guess I should be thankful that it's not something else.
Khatti- how long has it taken for you to understand conversations and speak the language?
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Yes. My urdu wasn’t (at the time of my shaadi) that good at all. So I sometimes had to take time to think about what to say. My inlaws sometimes took as I was cold towards them .. although they knew my urdu wasn’t as good 
I think ab dramay dekh dekh ke achi khasi urdu seekh gayi hoon 
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I started picking up quite a bit after the one year mark(understand, not speak! I can't speak/converse well but i can ge the gist of it) yes, I could tell/understand when she was talking about me (especially on the phone). My MIL did not live with us full time so I just had to grin and bare it and go about my business. After awhile, it ceased to bother me anymore. Going to my husband would not change her habits, and like you said, half the time he was clueless or said he didn't hear it anyway, so why get into it with him?
Again, I'm going to very sincerely advise you to let it go. It's not worth getting your knickers in a wad over.
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Cupcake my problem wasn't with inlaws but during university my room mate and a lot of our friends were bengali and they would start speaking bengali in the middle. I didn't throw a fit or anything as i didn't want 3-4 people to make adjustment for one person ... i just started listening to it very intently and asking questions and in about a couple of months i could understand the conversation using key words and reply in english ... i suggest you try that because you asking them isn't going to change much
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Yeah I haven't said anything in the house to anyone. Ive just kept it to myself because it's not a huge problem. And I'm picking up understanding it. It's annoying when you hear your name. Oh well shrugs.
Thanks for the advice guys! As always you guys are great!
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Well when u hear ure name... Just look at them with ji Kia kaha eyes.... And they will translate.... If they don't.. Just ask politely. Simple.