What if the rishta that was brought for you preferred to speak in English, where as you preferred to speack Urdu…
Both understand each others languages…but aren’t comfertable speaking them because maybe they don’t have enough practice…so there is somewhat of a language barrier..
Do you think that this could effect the relationship…
What could be done…
Thanks.
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**zabaan e yaar e man turkii
wa man turkii na mee danam
[mere yaar kii zabaan turkish hai aur mujhe turki zabaan nahiiN aatii]
mere Khayaal se dil kii zabaan ke liye alfaaz Khud ba Khud ishaare ban kar nikal paRte haiN...seriously, i think if they both understand eachother's language then they both speak in the language they are more conversant in...like...laRkii english meN bole aur laRkaa urdu meN taa k vo express saHeeH tareeqe se kar sakeN...zabaan ko bolnaa mushkil hotaa hai magar samajhnaa aasaan :)**
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since you both understand each others language, there isn't THAT much of a language barrier. but i think encouraging each other to speak in the language they aren't comfortable speaking will: 1. show your care, 2. give you both some practice. i am not fluent in urdu as my husband is, but he teaches me and encourages me to practice at my own comfort level.
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In my personal experience, language is huge. He doesnt have to speak English fluently or be accent-free. He has to be able to understand the language I feel most comfortable in or communicate frequently in. And vice versa.
Communication is KEY in every relationship. If your wires are crossing because of language, its even more frustrating because its not anyone's fault. Who can you go to? Who to take it out on? No matter how much I speak in Urdu, I switch over to English unknowingly. He has to be used to English enough to at least be able to understand me fully if not speak back to me. And vice versa.
In my personal experience, language is huge. He doesnt have to speak English fluently or be accent-free. He has to be able to understand the language I feel most comfortable in or communicate frequently in. And vice versa.
Communication is KEY in every relationship. If your wires are crossing because of language, its even more frustrating because its not anyone's fault. Who can you go to? Who to take it out on? No matter how much I speak in Urdu, I switch over to English unknowingly. He has to be used to English enough to at least be able to understand me fully if not speak back to me. And vice versa.
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sorry to ask and i wud appreciate if u answer my Q. if do NOT wish to its ur right and i'll understand. thank you...so can i ask the Q?**
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Um, sure.
Um, sure.
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thank you Ji...how did you end up marrying a person with whom u are unable to communicate? was urs an arranged marriage old fashioned way where couples don't meet? plz let us know if u think its appropriate to tell on the forum. thank you
masha Allah aapkii bachchii bahooot pyaarii hai...Alalh use aapkii aanKhoN kii ThanDak banaaye aur uskii deen o dunyaa saNwaar de...aameen...kia naam hai bachchi kaa if i may ask :)
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as long as its not that annoying hindu accent, u know the one from bollyood?
also punjabi is not really not my thing, i always feel like im being cussed at (which i probly am)
other than that, lets see, urdu/english dont matter, i am pretty sure id win with either.
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Hashmat Ji,
I didnt marry someone I am unable to communicate with. My personal experience has to do with a past rishta that didnt work out. The problem was language and his inability to understand me during an argument.
Any extreme emotion that sweeps through you ends up turning on your reflexes - Im trying to explain the best way I can. Those reflexes can be speaking in Urdu or English. During an argument or fight, people usually dont communicate effectively...if you add a language barrier to that...its just disaster.
Hashmat Sahab, vo meri bachi nahin hai. Meri bhanji hai...lekin I do consider her my own. Her name is Sumaiya and thank you for the kind dua. :)
as long as its not that annoying hindu accent, u know the one from bollyood?
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i wud request you to plz refrain from identying a group by religion...accent has nothing to do with religion. thank you**
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^ my bad, i mix up my I's and U's sometimes. Totally unintentional.
samjha karo.
Hashmat Ji,
I didnt marry someone I am unable to communicate with. My personal experience has to do with a past rishta that didnt work out. The problem was language and his inability to understand me during an argument.
Any extreme emotion that sweeps through you ends up turning on your reflexes - Im trying to explain the best way I can. Those reflexes can be speaking in Urdu or English. During an argument or fight, people usually dont communicate effectively...if you add a language barrier to that...its just disaster.
Hashmat Sahab, vo meri bachi nahin hai. Meri bhanji hai...lekin I do consider her my own. Her name is Sumaiya and thank you for the kind dua. :)
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i am so sorry that i assumed a lot of things. yes mem saab u r right. linguistic barrier just complicates things even more. i'm glad that its over and now u r in peace.
aaaaaaawwwwwww phir mujh se Ghalatii ho gaii...bahoot pyaaraa naam hai bachchi kaa...bhanji apni beTii kii taraH hii hotii hai :) May Allah BLESS u all aameen :)**
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^ koi baat nahin...thank you very much. :)
Jeez PSquared … kum mazakh kiya karo.
Ok here is the real story. PS is a blond and she dyed her hair black and got a tan just for her utmost respect and love for Pakistan. She end up marrying a handsome Pakistani guy and she has mashaAllah 6 very very cute bacha party. She can speak English and Urdu in all the available accents and looks awesome in shalwar kameez and saarhi.
Next time no kiddin’ with new comers PS :nono:
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Nomi 
Sabko batana zaroori hai?
Im trying to blend in here!!!