Laina Daina or Pehnoani

[ehl-e-chamman]

Re: Laina Daina or Pehnoani

@muspus

Ladies, come on: what did you give and what did you get in return? I’m arguing with the family so need to know what mine/their expectations should be…

I was/am 1000% against gift giving/receiving and refused to participate in buying/presenting any to the in-laws. my husband paid for the wedding entirely on his own including any clothing, jewelry, furniture, kitchen stuff etc that were “gifted” to me.

1. im not punjabi. My husband is. No sure what being punjabi has to do with this … this lavish gift giving tradition is present in non punjabis as well as far as i know.

2. traditions we dont agree with/find unreasonable/out of control wont go away unless each one of us personally makes an effort to change them. Change begins with YOU.

3. agree with iconoclast and reha