Re: Laina Daina or Pehnoani
I didn’t give any gifts nor did I receive anything from his family on my Nikah or Rukhsati.
I got my engagement ring/wedding band from husband on the Nikah day and my mehr on my Rukhsati day.
My MIL literally had to SNEAK in a gold set as a gift to me because my husband was against any laina daina but she felt she was being unfair to me since she had been able to give on her other sons’ weddings.
My parents tried very hard to gift us things but both of us refused to take part in it so it did not happen.
My suggestion is not to argue with your parents yourself if you want to keep things simple…involve your fiance and make it a point to both families that this is your personal decision. This way, there’s no naak katne ka savaal. Both parties are on the same page.
If you must, for men…its usually watches, suit pieces, shirt and tie sets, cologne, kurta shalwaar, cuff links, etc.
For women, its usually non-stitched outfits, sometimes gold, bangles, perfume, watches, etc.