Ladies, want to be happy?

Sara516 · October 8, 2008, 5:55am

Marry rich… According to this article, you’ll be happy forever :halo:

Rich and married Pakistani women are happier

Ever wondered what kind of lives Pakistani women lead? Here’s the answer about those who have married rich

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Pakistani women, who are married into affluent families, are reported to have happier married lives as compared to their less privileged counterparts, revealed a survey.

However, experts say that this was because a far less number of women from wealthy families go to courts to get divorce in order to keep their social status intact by not making their disputes public.

Conducted by Daily Times, the survey, based on courts data, analysed 300 cases out of 12,000, pending before family courts of the city and found that 7.8 percent women of Gulberg, DHA and Model Town (Gulberg 3 percent, DHA 2.2 percent and Model Town 2.6 percent) moved the courts. Usually, these cases are about suits for dissolution of marriage, maintenance, repayment of conjugal rights, and suit for recovery of dowry.

In fact, Bund Road alone has eight percent women who moved the courts to resolve their family disputes. About 32.7 percent women of less privileged areas have moved the courts to resolve their divorce disputes, according to the survey. Also, 7.1 percent women in Cantonment demanded marital rights through courts from their former husbands.

“Almost every married couple fights, but it is up to them how they resolve their matters. In affluent localities, people try to keep their social status intact by not making their disputes public. Women in posh localities being well educated try their best to resolve their family matters on their own. In case they have to part, they do it without intimating others or going to courts,” The Daily Times quoted clinical psychologist Sajjad Ahmad, as saying.

He claimed that women residing in posh localities did not move the courts for recovery of dower, as they thought that it will blotch their family image.

He said, “Women in less privileged areas, being less educated, make mountains out of a molehill, disturbing their marital lives that later end in divorces.”

He said that usually, women did not file cases against their former husbands, but it was their families that forced them to do so.

Advocate Surayya Farzand Chaudhry, who deals with family cases, said, “If a matter rises in a well-off family, it is resolved through conciliation and in few cases divorce takes place. If a dispute rises in a less privileged family, the husband beats the wife and forces her to leave home. In such cases, husbands neither let their wives return home, nor divorce them, which forces the women to approach the courts.”

She added: “In several cases, the husband divorces his wife, but does not return her dower, which again leads the women to move the courts.”

Uh..yah. I found a few things VERY wrong with this article. But what do you gusy think?

5Abi · October 8, 2008, 6:01am

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

i think you meant, marry a rich guy to be happy

goodnews · October 8, 2008, 6:27am

Bilkul

The_Voice · October 8, 2008, 7:35am

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

complete crap, educated women from posh families fight more and can leave their husbands more easily than women from the opposite background. whoever wrote this needs a reality check

armughal · October 8, 2008, 7:58am

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

ab ghareeb se shadi karnay ka haq bhee ccheen lo....

Decent_6Chora · October 8, 2008, 8:54am

Let them marry rich, iNN sai shadi ker k wo ghareeeb tu ho HEEE jayee ga :)

mall · October 8, 2008, 8:55am

i agree 100 percent now that i am goin thru it! money IS everything... i know they say money cant buy happiness and love but trust me it can if you do so wisely and not in extreme ways. there r many times i just hate myself for not marryin a really rich guy... but then life is never perfect. :) its difficult if u dun have alot of money cus u cant buy stuff and affford not only basic but other things in life, not luxuries (like eating out alot, spending on children, car expense etc etc.... so its a struggle constantly. so if u wanna b peaceful, one shud earn more than average. On the other hand, there r many females who marry rich guys who are corrupt, dun give them time etc, just money and their wives r also not happy... so I guess itna paisa toh hona chaye key dil ki har jaaiz aur zarori cheez hasil karsake..

adeeba · October 8, 2008, 9:17am

Oh… I think thats not true…
what should make a happy marriage is respect, love, compassion and understanding, humility… if that is there… then i dont think there should be any problem with any kind of marriage…
only when there is ego, pride and jealousy… and other bad emotions.. then.. it is a disaster…

mall · October 8, 2008, 10:18am

chanda i used to think exactly the same way as you did but i got a gr8 shock. love, respect is v important, agreed, but os se pait nahi bhara jata, bill nahi pay kiye jate… ive become v practical now and have learnt the hard way.

Silsila · October 8, 2008, 11:27am

money can help but it is not the key to happiness, there was a thread a while back on a girl whose in laws spent loads on her but she had a bad marriage and they mistreated her. those who have money will have extravagent weddings etc but that does not mean they are good ppl, they may be good at giving gestures etc to 'show' others - but we cant say that for all rich men as there are ppl there who have worked so hard to get where they are at and are grounded.

i know a person whose husband has alot of money etc but is mistreated by her inlaws and he is always spending money on her in terms of gifts etc......only the best named brands etc.....but is she happy, i dont think so, she is only happy when her husband has bought her something but how long does that materialistic item last?

Spock · October 8, 2008, 12:34pm

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

Well its obvious, if you live in a wealthy family, you're generally happier. Sorry to burst the burst anyone's bubbles, but even those working the minimum 8 hours every day (8-5), with this economy, revolving payments, health care etc are struggling to make ends meet. Those that are rich have less stress to deal with such issues. Love is all good and dandy, but you're forgetting one thing, even wealthy people know how to love, its not just exclusive to hard working middle classes.

Sara516 · October 8, 2008, 1:34pm

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

rich ppl (wall street execs) are evil.

somegroovychick · October 8, 2008, 2:32pm

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

that article is ridiculous. i love how the poorer women “make mountains out of molehills” while the richer ladies “keep their reputations intact in society”.
whatever

midnighteyes · October 8, 2008, 3:23pm

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

Just because they dont go to divorce courts as much does not automatically mean they are happier

JimmyKimble · October 8, 2008, 3:34pm

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

Sara516
As we hear, In good old days. People didn't care much about money. As long as they had food/cloths.
We are no where close to being that happy as they were.
This uncontrolled desired to have money, in ppl of pakistan, is not very old.
Desire for money drive ppl away from what they really are. They never get to know their real selves.

goodnews · October 8, 2008, 5:18pm

Ameer su shadi ka sirf sochny ka haq tu dy do:D

Chipkali · October 8, 2008, 6:31pm

Haha you gooooo girl! I agree.

Reha · October 8, 2008, 7:17pm

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

Personally speaking, money doesnt do it for me. I make my own money.

Croquet · October 8, 2008, 8:25pm

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

hmm usually women who marry for money end up with a guy who has run out of it :D speaks volume!

kaun · October 9, 2008, 1:46am

Re: Ladies, want to be happy?

inn articles kee hee wajah sey hum ghareebon ka ghar nahi basta