I dnt want anyone thinking im being a twat but im dreading the 1st night dwn the inlaws. im from the Uk thy are bak in Pak rawalpindi im going bak later this year for the wedding.
the worst of all things is i feel soooooooo nervous even thinking of the idea that i will be left there on my own… ive met them a couple of times but dnt knw them much..
OMG something else just popped up in my head the wedding night with my new going to be husband hai what am i going to do i wish thy hav a cuboard i can hide in during the night
Aaaaaaahhhhhh help what am i meant to expect??? so stressted but too embaressed to ask my sisters who will go all ooooooowww on me
well ... stay in touch with them over the fone? havnt u already? the more u talk the more theyll appreciate and get closer with u .. wedding night? lol .. keep ur calm!!! just sit relax ..enjoy ur wedding .. and then get comfy with ur hubz!!
Xanax will help for sure. :D (Just joking!). :) You know anytime I hear/see stuff like this....it reminds me of the story my nani told me years ago. So according to her....on her wedding night (back in the 40's or so), she needed to go to the bathroom. The bathroom was outside and she said she couldn't unlock the door. She had to come back in and ask her husband to unlock it for her. She told me how embarrased she felt by that. Of course, it was 100% arranged and she never even had a conversation with her husband before that night! (and no, she didn't share any other details of the night with me). My nana died when my mom was in 8th grade so I never even met him....but this was one of the many stories my nani used to tell me about him and laugh about. After having 7 children with him....I imagine it gave her a lot of amusement thinking back to how nervous/embarrased she was that first night.
I think every bride who's having an arranged marriage has these fears. I've had several cousins and 2 close friends who went through this. I think you really just need to relax and trust that your fiance (then husband) will take care of you. And to be honest...do you honestly believe your fiance isn't nervous about the 1st night? Its his wedding night too you know....and as the man....I'm sure he also feels the pressure to live up to "expectations".
I know this is easier said than done....but I think you should just try your best to relax and do what comes naturally. Don't be afraid to talk to your husband that night if anything makes you uncomfortable.
I'm assuming this is an arranged marriage. Are you staying in touch with your fiance in-laws? How has your interaction been with them so far?
Thx alot for all the feedback u guys are great...it is an arranged marriage i havnt actualy talked to him im extremely shy (dnt care if anyone thinks im weird) ive spoken to his sisters and mum thyr lovely. Thyre is a bit of a barrier in terms of talking to ach other thyr are from pindi and were from mirpur ends the way we talk is different.
Ahhhh Bless ur nanis story puts it into perspective…but its that thing you dnt knw each other
i will defo try and relax but knwing my luck ill end up doing something to embarress myslf like go shtum if he talks to me hahahahaha
i supose its gna be tuff on him too (but i dnt care) i knw its selfish bt i can only fret about myslf at the moment
i only said yes to the rishta 2 weeks ago lol and im torturing myslf already…
LOL…you’re the bride so nothing wrong with being reasonably selfish.
I’m sure there are MANY brides out there who can tell you stories like the one my nani said. That on that particular night…they were embarrased/shy beyond words…but then months/years later…they laughed about it. Don’t torture yourself! Enjoy the planning and relax. Everything will be ok at the end…
Thx alot for all the feedback u guys are great...it is an arranged marriage i havnt actualy talked to him im extremely shy (dnt care if anyone thinks im weird) ive spoken to his sisters and mum thyr lovely. Thyre is a bit of a barrier in terms of talking to ach other thyr are from pindi and were from mirpur ends the way we talk is different.
aww...it's perfectly normal to feel shy! and actually, even if it's a "love marriage" (like mine was!) and you know your husband from before, there is still nervousness and hesitation...that's to be expected!
Thx alot for all the feedback u guys are great...it is an arranged marriage i havnt actualy talked to him im extremely shy (dnt care if anyone thinks im weird) ive spoken to his sisters and mum thyr lovely. Thyre is a bit of a barrier in terms of talking to ach other thyr are from pindi and were from mirpur ends the way we talk is different.
are you going to be living with your in-laws after the wedding or just staying there a while after the wedding? honestly, you shouldn't worry- we are all human and know what goes on in life, so i'm sure they will all be understanding and also give you your privacy when you need it
as for the wedding night- don't feel that you are required to be intimate with your husband- especially since you've never even spoken to him.. you should get to know each other for a while before you make that leap- it's a very emotional thing and you shouldn't just jump into it.. i think he'll respect you if you tell him you'd like to wait until the two of you become closer
If there's zero contact between the two of you I'd say you're asking for more stress and anxiety when it comes to the first night.. esp if he has 'expectations.'
Girl u need to start communicating with this guy! Do u know what his occupation is and what his personality is like? I mean u need a bit of understanding & background of ur to be hubby. Good Luck!
are you going to be living with your in-laws after the wedding or just staying there a while after the wedding? honestly, you shouldn't worry- we are all human and know what goes on in life, so i'm sure they will all be understanding and also give you your privacy when you need it
as for the wedding night- don't feel that you are required to be intimate with your husband- especially since you've never even spoken to him.. you should get to know each other for a while before you make that leap- it's a very emotional thing and you shouldn't just jump into it.. i think he'll respect you if you tell him you'd like to wait until the two of you become closer
that's just my 2 cents
hey,
ill only be dwn there house for about 2 weeks then im cuming bak to the UK....
Girl u need to start communicating with this guy! Do u know what his occupation is and what his personality is like? I mean u need a bit of understanding & background of ur to be hubby. Good Luck!
Ive handed the most treasured 11 digits i hav so will be getting the communication flowing inshallah i wnt hav to stay gum sum on the wedding day :)
im going bak later this year for the wedding.
hai what am i going to do i wish thy hav a cuboard i can hide in during the night 
