Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
Agree with redvelvet.
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
Thanks guys. We'll see what happens. I told him off so I'm in the wrong at the moment. But it's also a test as to whether he can handle an angry wife. If he can't, marrying PCG is a bad idea.
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
Plan to meet in person - check from our side. Plan in place.
Talking to my mom. Check. She is clear and has taken the initiative to call his family from her own side.
Everyone is just worried about him being a divorcee and what's happened in the past and whether it's an issue of him not being able to handle a wife that stands her ground and whether his family has interfered in the past.
If I was someone's bhabi or even sister or mom, I wouldn't have called the girl up and asked her to explain her mom's behavior.
And you're right RV I keep thinking in throwing my mom under the bus by admitting that she is uncomfortable and this is not an attack on her. My family wants to make sure the guy is right and they already show they're open minded by talking to his family despite his past.
Now I'm just beginning to have my doubts. If every month im gonna swing off the handle, and he stops talking to me and the relationship is in danger every month, will he throw me out? I wonder if that's what happened with his exwife.
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
I have not read most of the replies here but let me tell you one thing.
forums par "tuchay" kisam kay log hain.
har koi "smart" play karay ga, everyone is going to be like stay calm, stay cool, SAB THEEK HO GA, ye ho ga.
chittar mera theek ho ga.
Maslon ka hal agar forums and blogs say nikal sakta to duniya mai koi problem hi na hoti.
idhar har koi Einstein bannay ga.
if the guy really loves you, then he should be man enough to make it all happen.
mard ka puttar hai to karay shaadi.
if his family or jo bhi hai causing problems, then aisi mardangi par lanat.
simple as that.
mitti payo tay boota layo.
sidhi tarah kaho, shaadi karni hai tay kar, warna chalda ban
tera rasta wo, mera ye.
doosri shaadi hai uski, aur wo koi saltanat ka badshah nahi , tum bhi kam nahi ho kissi say PCG, you have everything, tum kiyo kissi kay thallay lago?
bohat ho geya ye natak, lanat aise mardon par jo pyar kar sakte hain par nibha nahi sakte.
family tang kar rahi hai uski, behnain, saas, saalian, jo bhi ho.
he is the mard, end of story.
mard ko kabhi dard nahi hota.
wo mard kam, aur khusra ziyada lag raha hai.
take care.
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
^ That just read like a long list of filmi dialogs, Samad Chopra. 
PCG, you have admitted that you are in the wrong …so I don’t quite agree with your view of testing to see if he can handle an angry wife. Think about whether your anger was justified or if you went overboard. If it’s the latter, then it’s not right to “test” him. Moreover his family can use your anger as a reason to just move on. It’s still a kacha rishta…not a nikkah. As to your argument about whether he can handle a wife who “stands her ground”…is the stand reasonable or is it mainly ego?
You both have been talking for several months…and during this time have you noticed a pattern of him not talking to you? If so, it’s a reasonable concern to an extent. If he’s only behaved like this now…could you be overthinking or having cold feet maybe? Swinging off the handle every month isn’t healthy either…it makes you part of the problem. Maybe he is closer to his bhabi and thinks she can communicate better than his mom. Maybe his bhabi thought it would be better to get a direct clarification from you than to involve a middleman. Who knows? Get over the bhabi and discuss your doubts (about his divorce, to concerns after marriage, etc) with him.
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
Women...... Always the trouble/problem causers.
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
Women...... Always the trouble/problem causers.
Sad but generally true.
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
So not only is there an evil bhabi, but four or five more sister in laws to contend with?
Latest pew poll shows 70.45% of potential sister in laws are evil. Good luck 
Re: Ladies of the Household Involved in Rishta Talks
lesser the better.
people like to self-invite themselves to do others rishtas or recommend stuff 
good luck pcg, sari zindagi daal chawal…with tarka though…cuz of the # of SILs 
(jk jk jk)