Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?

[Ghost14]

Re: Ladies, how many of you changed your name after marriage?

@Curious Lady

The point of my post WAS to point at extremely ridiculous social norms, and make it clear that they aren’t right. If people fail to call out the “wrong” in norms, then well, why have any civilization. Just because you think it wouldn’t happen (and it may actually never happen) doesnt mean it can’t and shouldn’t be pointed out. In addition, it is fine if the taking-wives-name doesn’t catch on, as long as the consciousness about the stupidity of the norm does.

You are bringing up both culture and the religion. Even when they clearly disagree. You might want to pick one and stick to it for the sake of the argument, at least.

Haha! As for letting the fathers go, well, look around. More women leave their father’s house then men leave their mother’s. And right back at ya! How about the men let THEIR father’s name go? No wait, that will emasculate them. But, if a woman wants to keep her birth name, she’s a feminazi. HAHAHAHHA! I am loving this.

I just brought up religion only in the context of your argument of men taking their wives names. Not in the context of the wife taking her husband’s name. As for the cultural argument, I’m just citing reasons why that is practiced.

And if you consider it stupidity, what do you think of the women who willingly take their husband’s names. Like I said, most of the time no one is forcing the woman. But it’s a nice show of unity. And this is a trend in the west among women, they are taking their husband’s names.

Lol I just said a guy taking his WIFE’S name is considered emasculating. Are you really going to argue this? People actually refer to a man as a Mrs with regards to him being a push over against his wife. I don’t know where you got the father thing.

You might argue why should women change their names and not men? Again like I said, by our society (not saying it’s a law of physics) the perception is that a guy with his wife’s last name is uh, p**sy whipped. Men want to lead, and women want men to lead. So if a man is perceived as being led by his wife, i.e. she wears the pants, he’s not going to be happy. Now in an ideal world, no one would care but we don’t live in an ideal world.

I think you took my feminazi comment a bit too seriously. I just meant that a woman who would make a big deal about the name change is a feminazi. As in, if you even brought it up she would bite your head off.

Now, all that being said, I personally wouldn’t consider it that big a deal if she didn’t change her name. I would certainly want her too but wouldn’t force it on her.