This thought is just popping up in my mind every single day on how they will manage.My siblings are all out of the city/country. My mother is this super duper emotional & sensitive person who spends her day just giving calls to each of her kids or helping her maids out of their domestic problems. She is some one who is so charitable that even if she doesn’t have money or clothes for herself she would give it to poor who need it. Mothers only fun time is time spent with her kids when she has them all beside her.
Father on the other hand is some one who keeps himself busy. He plays chess on computer, is a book worm literally, meets friends, calls up his siblings every day & talks to us as well. He isn’t the emotional or sensitive sort who would cry if alone.
My mothers siblings are far away so she mostly keeps contact via phone only.
Now when I will get married, I don’t know how they will cope. I know my father is busy enough with his books & he wouldn’t really ponder much over this but my mother she will be sad like all the time. I know her .. she will be.
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How did your parents manage after you? were your siblings there to keep them busy enough? How did you support or help them afterwards?
Re: Ladies - How did your parents manage after you got married?
i live down the street from my parents, they still see me every now and then. I remember we wanted to move 4-5hrs away and my mom couldn't stop her tears so we dropped the plan.
Re: Ladies - How did your parents manage after you got married?
They'll "cope" the same way they did BEFORE you & your siblings were born. I'm sure your mom managed to stay "busy"/"happy" before you & your siblings were born.
Your mom doesn't have ANY friends at all who she spends time with? If she has a charitable personality, aren't there local organizations where she can volunteer and keep busy?
My last sibling moved out 2 years ago. Since then, my parents have been fine. They call regularly. Watch TV, go for walks together, they read a lot.....my mom has a sister who lives nearby so she visits that sister etc. Of course in the beginning it will be hard b/c of the sudden change in daily routine. But with time, your parents will adjust (as will you). :)
Re: Ladies - How did your parents manage after you got married?
It is very important for my parents to talk to all three of us and my bhabi every day. We also see each other on skype sometimes. Its hard for my mom but she keeps busy somehow and then takes trips to either see me (i live 5 hour drive away) or fly to my brother's. Keep in touch as much as you can and encourage your mom to find other activities. My mom found it very hard initially to be away from us and still hates it but makes up by visiting us often or we visit often.
Re: Ladies - How did your parents manage after you got married?
i live down the street from my parents, they still see me every now and then. I remember we wanted to move 4-5hrs away and my mom couldn't stop her tears so we dropped the plan.
Re: Ladies - How did your parents manage after you got married?
aww whn i got married i moved 2 dubai n bro was in australia my parents r not ready 2 move 2 australia they r in pakistan but my grandparents r living wth them so mum is buzy wth them u know its almost same handling old people n small babies my mum is still on her toes lolz n my mum has a huge social circle friends n family so she is always buzy wth guests more over my father's sister n my mum's siblings r nearby so she dont feel alone much ofcourse she misses her children n thn she talks daily 2 me n bro which is like 2 hrs wth me n 2 hrs wth my SIL lolz n father is buzy wth his job n studies n yes he is still studying lolz he loves studying
same case is at my in laws they live all alone they have 3 sons eldest in army so he always moving thn my huby n youngest one in dubai n again they have also large social cirlcle n FIL is also buzy wth his job :)
Re: Ladies - How did your parents manage after you got married?
I got married in Pakistan and I stayed there with my guy and the in-laws for 4 months. My mum flew back a week after my wedding. We used to Skype almost every other day; which she said made it much easier for her. She says she missed me less than she had expected. When I got back she said it was almost like I had never left, but my dad said, no it definitely felt empty without you (but then I only skyped my dad less than half the times I skyped mum cos often hed be working when I called). Overall she coped well though. One of my cousins got married a few months after me and her mum couldn't deal with her daughter getting married, and ended up satying with her daughters in-laws too :S
