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Women are stupid (emotional ) n they let their weak points get highlighted.
exactly! so when talking about it, do any of you ladies ever feel like you are causing stress to your relationship when trying to discuss the whole attention, affection and connection deal with your man?
i dont get why men dont like having this talk. they seem to get defensive about it and they will make sure we feel stupid for even mentioning it. defense mechanism.
Re: Ladies and wanting attention
^I would tell my guy exactly that.
That you feel stupid when he says XYZ and you do not appreciate it. Make a point to tell him that you have the right to your feelings and he MUST listen (as common sensical as that may be, it is easy to forget). He doesn't have to agree, but ABSOLUTELY HAS to listen with respect.
It is normal to feel a little bit of stress for stirring things up a little. It is ok to feel this way (I felt that way today - haha). But imagine how unhappy you will be if you never told him what you wanted and so, NEVER got what you wanted. If you let the stress scare you, you'll inevitably cause a thunderstorm later.
Don't blame him. No matter how angry you are, take some time out to calm yourself, think the issue through and talk to him once you understand the problem and can talk about it intelligently, without getting swept up in emotions. Explaining your feelings works A LOT better than blaming him.
It may take a couple conversations for this to get sorted out, for him to really understand your feelings. But try to keep your calm. Get him to respect your feelings because if that doesn't happen, things will be difficult. Talk to him to figure out why he feels resistant to the idea of connection - this is where you will find out what you can do differently to make things easier for him. Once you know what it is, tell him that you will do it and then DO IT.
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hmm 
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lol, not that a guy will ever agree that hes being resistant. but that is def a good approach. you know i think its that guys act differently through different means of communication. in person my SO is very affectionate and gives tons of attention. but as we are in a LD relationship, it takes a toll bc i know he is not much of a telephonic/skype communicator. and i think THAT is where the problem lies for us specifically. so its kind of difficult to point it out or nail things smoothly when i bring it up. he will ask me what is it that he can do differently, but then again, im not the kind to blatantly demand something only bc i dont want to sound like im nagging. but yes, my feelings do need to be understood, only if i could channel them properly..which i thought i did, but apparently i did not bc i dont feel there is much progress. i kind of want to just stop having to mention it but that feeling for me will not go away. i dont want to sound like im beating a dead horse on the head, which nonetheless is exactly how i feel 
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I never discuss this issue wid ladies, jinka pata hai un per koi farak nahi parta hai..
attention seeking ladies ki bhi different classes hoti haen 
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attention seeking ladies ki bhi different classes hoti haen
such as?
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okay what is SO?
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^stupid other
Re: Ladies and wanting attention
okay what is SO?
^stupid other
LOL..nomica, sorry to hear that
..in my case its significant other
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^ Hehe aqalmand . why do we use so much of abbreviations? SO, SAHM, KIT (dont know whats that, Kabootri In Trap) MIL, FIL, etc etc. Amazingly ppl use them in live convo too, like “yeh she is sahm”. now you ll think what profession/degree/diploma is SAHM. 