I am a mom of a one month old cute cute baby girl, my sweetie pie
Well, in the beginning i didnt have any milk supply at all the nurse kept checking for like 5 times the day my baby was born, and then she decided to give feeder to the baby.
Then for first few days i was unable to sit at all, so i used to nurse my baby while standing for 30 - 45 min, but poor baby cldnt get enough milk, so i kept using feeder as well to satisfy her hunger. Now she is almost 1 month old, my milk supply is still low but now she is completely refusing breastmilk… she cries and cries and doesnt suck, and i have to give her feeder at the end
i am disappointed, i just feel i am not being a good mom.. i shd’ve tried even more to breastfeed her, so she wld’ve been used to it…
i really need help, plz anyone if you have experienced this, how can i make her take my milk, as its really important for her health.
i am really worried now, i was trying hard to make her latch on, and she was just crying so bad that i even slapped her lightly for refusing constantly and she cried so much… i m just so bad
plz tell me any dua, any remedy to make her even partially take my milk…
maybe u need to calm down and relax and dont put so much pressure on yourself cos its getting you worked up so mch plz be patient some babies do take a bit of time getting used to everything but please please dont hit your child esp a newborn
Ok now that I’ve calmed down … first thing first- contact a lactation specialist. Don’t be too hard on yourself and your baby. Although not as good as breast milk, baby formula is great too!
I’ve heard that you should drink milk with saunf and zeera… Giving breastfeeding or not has nothing to do with being a good or bad mother… Try to relax… My doctor has forbidden me to give my milk to my baby (dd 23 feb) coz it can be harmful for him… It was very difficult for me to accept this but it’s better for him… So if you can’t give your milk then give her the feeder…
Determine whether breastfeeding is the right choice for you and your child. When you are relaxed and happy, your child is much better off. Not all women breastfeed every child successfully. It’s not the end of the world. If you’ve tried and it’s just not working out, you find the best way to have a well fed and happy baby.
Purchase a pump to see if you can increase and maintain your supply. Perhaps you can try giving breast milk in the bottle. However, it is usually very hard for women to maintain supply when pumping alone, but some women are able to do so.
Drink lots of fluids and eat methi/fenugreek seeds, saunf, oatmeal, nuts, and other foods known to help milk supply. Sleep whenever you can.
Nurse sounds stupid…i’m guessing you delivered in Pakistan. Women/nurses there seem to think that milk flows in the second you have your baby. My cousin told me the same story. It takes 3-5 days after giving birth, for milk to come in for women, also if u’ve had a c-section. Until it does, the best thing to do is continually nurse your child…they get their initial nutrition/immunity from the clear fluid/colustrum that your breasts make. Continually nursing also gets milk production started. Milk production is all about supply and demand - you will make more milk the more your baby nurses.
As your baby is now used to the bottle, you should continue to supplement with the formula until you have enough milk to satisfy her. Offer her the breast when she is hungriest cos she’ll suck more then. If she gets frustrated, wait a second and gently offer again..DO NOT slap your baby. She gets frustrated bcos she is uaed to the faster flow of a bottle nipple, easier food access. She’s only a month old…her only way to comunicate is by crying. She doesn’t do it on purpose…she needs to feel safe and as a mother you should be doing your best to provide a safe environment.
Do reach out to a lactation consultant, they offer loads of help. Oatmeal, fenugreek (methi), and fennel are said to increase milk supply. Try these on addition to nursing.
Also visit the the kellymom website…loads of help for breastfeeding moms. From how to maintain supply to latch issues…there’s loads of information and help.
I know lots of healthy babies that were formula-fed. Babies need patience, love, and nourishment. You have to find the best ways to provide it for your circumstance. Please go with your husband to speak to a nurse or doctor so that you and he can better understand.
honestly you wont get enoughmilk from pumping until after 6 weeks. you just have to keep trying breastfeeding as frequently as possible. dont give the bottle, if you she will continue to reject bf. also stayclam, if you are not calm, you wont have success bf. find a comfortable sitting position for bf. try to bf when your baby is somewhat a sleep, she will latch better and take your milk.
yes,formula milk will make her healthy too. i bfeed my son for 4.5 months, now he is on formulas. Alhamdulilah, he is doing great.
my baby started formula at 3 weeks and alhmadulillah didnt even get cold until he was like 10-11 months old!! (supplemented until 4 months and then just formula after that)
formula isnt pioson people! stop comparing breast milk and formula because there is no comparison but if the motehr is unable to bf, then formula is the next best thing on Earth!
ps: thats one thing husbands will never understand.. mine was against it until I was in the ER and he had to run to a city 20 miles away to get formula at 3:00am! lets say, he has never appreciated me more than that ever before.
trying to breastfeed and not able to is very frustrating but being a mature adult you and your husband should be able to cope with it.
You are trying but if the baby refuses, your husband needs to understand you are only a mother who can try.
I have seen fathers and mothers say some stupid/immature stuff. Just because a woman is a mother does not automatically makes her a perfect human being who should be capable of doing everything.
Everyone forgets that a mother has lack of sleep, mood swings, delivery and recovery pain to go through. She does not need to be reminded that she is doing an incomplete job by not being able to breastfeed.
I am sorry but this just drives me crazy. So many women are not able to breastfeed. My own sister had to hear it so many times from her MIL when the MIL herself never breastfed yet she had all the advices for my sister.
If you are not getting engorged when baby does not feed from you, it means you have low supply. Breastmilk is demand and supply, it will increase insha Allah but remember that it does not for many women.
You have read all the advices here.
Also, both my kids were breastfed and both have gotten sick over time. bm does not automatically mean no sickness.
Soleil- I feel for you and your little baby! I was in a similar situation where my breast milk supply was very low- I had to start formula feeding at 5 days as by then baby was soooooo hungry despite my trying to exclusively breastfeed. Initially he took both formula and breast milk although I had to top up with formula after breastfeeding, however after about 6 weeks he would only take the bottle -I felt terrible at first but got over it after a while- Mash’Allah he is a healthy little boy- didn’t get ill until 10 months when he got his first cold!!
Formula feeds nowadays are very good!
Please don’t feel guilty or stressed- as long as you have a happy healthy baby who is feeding fine whether that is formula or breastfed- that is the most important thing of all!!!
Remember Happy mums = happy babies!!! (babies pick up when you are unhappy/stressed)
instead of fretting about the issues that is not totally in your hand, feed her formula and enjoy her, this is the best time to bond with your baby. Let others say whatever they want to only you or may be your doc can understand your body. You tried breast feeding it is not working out now move on for yours and your baby’s good.
Dont worry about it. Even if you give him a bottle milk for now, he may still latch on later, then you could always mix feed him. But if you cant, then dont worry about it. Theres a whole generation of healthy kids brought up on formula milk… From when it Used to be the fashion. So dont let the hostility and ignorance get you down.
the nurse kept checking for like 5 times the day my baby was born, and then she decided to give feeder to the baby.
my real poor baby
