lack of communication

[fat_spartan]

Re: lack of communication

@Red_Ruby

Hi to all

some of you may already know what glorious in laws i have (sarcasm) and the lack of involvement they have with me and my daughter, and husband aswell.

recently i made a massive effort to get to know my SIL better. she has a daughter the same age as mine so i thought yeah this will be a good ground to start maybe a friendship with her. i called her every few days to organise outings and playgroups for the girls and also picked her up, dropped her off, even helped her clean her house on numerous occasions when i was there. i feed her daughter change her nappy etc, just to help her out. i thought yeah maybe i have finally found a friend in her.

anyway, about 2 weeks ago i have not been feeling well and so havent made any phone calls, and surprise surprise she hasnt even called me. i started to realise that it was actually me who was calling her and making arrangements to go out and it wasnt actually her who bothered to call me at all.

now that i havent made an effort, i havent even had one phone call from her.

i mentioned it to my hubby the other day and he said ‘shes still part of his family and they all share the same view about you and our relationship’ (we had a love marriage). i was pretty disappointed as i made an effort thinking we can build a friendship and she was always polite to me so i cant understand why she is being like this.

is my hubby right? or was i wrong to even bother in the first place.

Well I don’t know anything about your SIL. I myself am the type who will thinking of calling someone, then procrastinate in it indefinitely. I’ve been meaning to call my in-laws for the past two weeks, but it kept getting pre-empted by something else. I’ve also procrastinated calling my bro for a couple of months now. My problem is that when I remember, I’m usually not in a position to do it. When I am in a position to do it, it keeps slipping my mind. Do you think it could be the same thing?