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Recent research seems to indicate that men in the delivery rooms just get in the way of things and are more of a hinderance than help.
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okay this is becoming annoying.
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Agree!!! Ok so a mom with a pregnant daughter in labor....she is going to be so very upset that her daughter is suffering. That will be her frantic thought. A husband on the other hand...created this new lifewith the womanhe loves so who better to welcome this new life into the world. This is the "toughest job you'll ever love", the biggest thing you will ever do together. So to wimp out at that particular time is ... yup, annoying.
I couldnt have made it thru my labors nearly as easily without my love being there. WHAT a comfort he was. And the look on his face when he was handed his baby, the tears of joy in his eyes...I'd not trade those memories for anything on the planet. An experience like that makes a wedding day fade to almost nothingness as far as bonding.
I have to say that I was uneasy at first with the idea of having ANY family in the room with me. I'm an absurdly private person and the thought of anyone seeing me scream or to have someone witness unattractiveness .... I just thought I'd be better off alone. Hubs wanted very much to be there and how very thankful I am that he was.
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How is it becoming annoying baji?
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I've never heard of any research that suggests what paijii is suggesting.
You doubt me? Its only 2 weeks old…
BBC News - Should dads be in the delivery room?
Should dads be in the delivery room?
The presence of an anxious male partner in the labour room makes the woman tense and slows her production of the hormone oxytocin, which aids the process of labour, so the French doctor contends.
This, he says, makes her much more likely to end up on the operating table having an emergency Caesarean section.
“Having been involved for more than 50 years in childbirths in homes and hospitals in France, England and Africa, the best environment I know for an easy birth is when there is nobody around the woman in labour apart from a silent, low-profile and experienced midwife,” he says.
-French obstetrician Michel Odent
So to wimp out at that particular time is ... yup, annoying.
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Thats your experience - why force it upon others that dont want that experience? Why should my absence be 'annoying' for you?
My wife didnt want anyone present - she made that clear....her choice, I had no say in the matter (not that it appealed to me) - thats 'wimping out'?
You’ve missed the whole article and concentrated on first few paras…there’s no proper research has been done on this subject, the french doc said it based on the number of caesareans taking place and he completely ignored the other and important reason for increase in caesarean births…
here’s the conclusion of this article that you compltely missed..
But what we do know is that there are many reasons why the number of emergency caesarean sections has risen - including obesity, older mothers, and fear of litigation - none of which have anything to do with the presence of dads," says Patrick O’Brien, a consultant from the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists.
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In my eyes, personally...yes. I think that it took two to make a baby and it SHOULD take the two of them to welcome the baby into the world. If you arent ok with that and if your wife is in agreement well thats that. But so much nicer, so much better, forwife to have the complete support of her husband at a time when she needs him most and so very nice for baby to have both mom AND dad right there to welcome him/her.
Thats your experience - why force it upon others that dont want that experience? Why should my absence be 'annoying' for you?
My wife didnt want anyone present - she made that clear....her choice, I had no say in the matter (not that it appealed to me) - thats 'wimping out'?
It's not us who are forcing you rather it's you who's forcing others and posting articles that you don't even read properly.
The point was not about the flu vs. labour room. lol. It was about how amazing it is to have the comfort of a loved one during a miserable time in a hospital setting. 
Oh i am not an idiot and realize there is a difference between the flu and the labour room… but if anything I would think that the need for comforting and support would be INCREASED. So if I appreciated his presence in the hospital room for when I got the flu …before I was even his fiance… I’m pretty sure I would die without his presence if he was not there for the birth of a child.
And if he was that upset during a flu episode (which was swine… it was quite serious. I was in the hospital for a couple of days. That is not really normal “flu”) and was so insistent to be there for me during that scary time. It makes it all the more believable that he promises he will be there with me in the labour room.
So …you took care of your kids and wife during their time of need… nothing to be too proud off because you SHOULD do that. It would be beyond appalling if you were not capable of that. You are a dad and husband after all.
But if your wife was fine with you not being there during a HUGE time of need in her life… then I guess there are no issues with that. She probably knew your feelings on it (it was not “appealing”) and did not want you there. Either that or did not feel comfortable about you seeing her in that condition.
But it does make me really feel lucky that my guy is who he is and just know how amazingly compassionate he is. It also makes me feel better that this level of support and comfort also exists between us. I am sure a lot of ladies feel the same as me after reading Paijee’s opinion…
Thats your experience - why force it upon others that dont want that experience? Why should my absence be 'annoying' for you?
My wife didnt want anyone present - she made that clear....her choice, I had no say in the matter (not that it appealed to me) - thats 'wimping out'?
It is probably annoying to many females just because we know what we have gone through/will go through. It is something you can not even come close to comprehend and since it is something you do not even find "appealing" ... I kinda doubt how much you truly know about this experience (i am not talking from a medical point of you.. I am talking about it from an emotional point of view). Also, beyond the ridiculous amount of pain one has to endure and the unbelievable moment of the child being born, girls from a young age have heard stories about difficult deliveries, unfortunate delivers where the baby has not survived, or unfortunate deliveries where the mother has not survived. And even in this day and age of all the medical advancement - all of this DOES happens. Complications DO occur.
And I am positive that it just boggles a lot of females minds about why a guy would not find it "appealing" to be in the delivery room. Who would not want to be with their wife during such difficult time in her life .... not to mention a HUGE moment in both of your lives. Don't you want to be there to comfort her?????????????? And be there to witness the first time you see your child???????????????????????
Many girls do not want anyone present due to the reasons I gave above. Insecurity, fear, etc. This thread is full of comments of women who initially did not want anyone present but were SO THANKFUL that their hubbies insisted on being there.
So therefore, it is not hard to imagine why us girls find it annoying that you are the type of guy that would not even try to convince his wife otherwise. And no - you truly would not try to convince her because you don't find it "appealing".
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^^^^ totally agree with you!!
paijee >>> u make comments like u wud NEVER wanna b in the delivery room and u ask why us women find that annoying??!!
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Thread is getting interesting.
^^^^ totally agree with you!! paijee >>> u make comments like u wud NEVER wanna b in the delivery room and u ask why us women find that annoying??!!
If my wife didnt find it 'annoying' - realistically, no one should be 'annoyed' on her behalf. I think too many girls takin this 'sisterhood' thing too far.
I wasnt there for my childs birth...not anyone elses!!!!
So therefore, it is not hard to imagine why us girls find it annoying that you are the type of guy that would not even try to convince his wife otherwise. And no - you truly would not try to convince her because you don't find it "appealing".
Like I said above, I was not present for MY childs birth - not yours, so i dont see why my excercising MY right not to be present is upsetting you or others.
I havent said that NO husbands should be present at their wifes bedside - its their choice!! So why is my not being their afffecting any of you? We've had 2 children - so my wife has been through tghe experience twice.
If we were to have another - she would not want me present.
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@ paigee >> tenu english kya samaj mein nahi aati?
We dont have any probs with whether u wer present or not at ur kids birth, its the comments ur making like this.....
<<< But you wont find me in the Labour room in any circumstances... >>>
That get on ppl's wick and sound very insensitive to women who basically can lose their life bringing another life into the world.
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Damn girls....It's a matter btwn him and his wife, why are you all going nuts over it? is he telling ur husbands to avoid the delivery room?
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My husband wasnt with me in labour room and I was okay with that .first time my mom was with me and was great help 2ndn 3rd time i perferd to be alone . so for me hubby in labor room wasnt important for me ..nor anyone else .i perfer to have em around after delivery so they can take baby so I can sleep :D
My husband wasnt with me in labour room and I was okay with that .first time my mom was with me and was great help 2ndn 3rd time i perferd to be alone . so for me hubby in labor room wasnt important for me ..nor anyone else .i perfer to have em around after delivery so they can take baby so I can sleep :D
You are going to be 'disowned' by the sisterhood!!
Seriously speaking, I try to make my wife's life as easy as possible - 24/7...not just during childbirth.
She is still with me 14 years and 2 kids later - and getting on better than ever. Just 1 argument in the last 10 years.
I'll take that.