What base levels can human beings stoop to kehne ko Allah ne ham ko ashraf-ul-makhlooqat banaya hae…
Someone my family knows got married recently in Pakistan. Completely arranged marriage. She moved to another small town where her susral was after getting married.
She belongs to a lower middle class not so educated family. But very good religious family with exceptional ikhlaaq. Most of the elders in the family are hajis mashallah se.
Shaadi ke kuch hi dino baad susraal waalon ne us larki pe zullam kernay shuru ker dyay. Her saas and her husband used to get together to beat her because she didn’t bring enough jahez And she had in fact. Aur phir pata chala ke unhon ne khud jo us ko zewar dyay thay woh saray nakli thay…
Us kee kuch relatives us ko wahan milnay gayeen toh us ke susral ki aurton ne mil ke un saaron ko maara
Bandi ab apnay ghar waapas aa gayi hae aur woh log ab kehte hayn keh itne paisay le ke aao ghar se warna Tallaq…
I always heard of such things happening from ppl I knew specially in the villages etc..and read abt such stuff in newspapers…but never actually occurred to me that some poor women actually have to go thru this
^ not always, i think many 'lower class' ppl would have learnt that by now if only by watching ptv dramas. By saying the above we are reinforcing the idea. Somebody has to break this vicious cycle
Irem let me tell U abt my pahpoo who is not from a lower middle class but stil lalach unn ke ander door tak hai ,I wonder why is that ,jabe ke kisi cheez ki dekha jaeey to kami nahi un ko , last year unnioN ne apnay batay ki shade ke with my other cousin , apnay bhai ki beti ko baho banaya and wanted jahaiz from her brother ...u know we Allhamdoillaha dont have this lahanat in my family ,haN apni hasseyat ke mutabiq parentes larki ke naam pacay jama karwa datya haiN but all that things on the name of jahiz wo nahiN , my pahpoo have been such a greedy ke shade ke 10 din pahlay she asked my chachu ke larki ko bedroom set diya jaeey coz that s what ppl do in her family (in laws) and they are gonna make fun of her ke baho kia lay ke ayee haiN , so aab assa houa ke shade meiN 10 din they lakiN hamray chachu bhi akar gaye ke nahiN doon gaa (jabke wo afford kar sakte they ) lakin wo bhi ziddi haiN kahnay lagay ke agay 3 betioN ko nahin dia aab iss ko kion doon , sab ne samjaya ke day daeen uff dont ask me kia hangama houa just becz of that ...shade par khoob badmazghi houie and in the end chachu ko un ka kaha mannana he para , so all i wanted to say ke jab khhon ke rishtay lalaich meiN itnay agay nikal jatay haiN thu ghairioN se kia shikwa , + hamaari pahpoo jaN maashAllah se thek thak first class family se taulaq rakhteN haiN jab wo assa kar saktiN hain thu jo log finacially problmes meiN hotay haiN unn ko kiss bat ki sharaam , wo too apnay aap ko haq par samjtay hoon gaye ..this is so sad yara .
It is really disheartening to see that in this age too ppl are still practicing these evil customs like Dowry....jehez. Why not just accept what the girls parents are giving with their own heart....and what they can afford to give. It is hard enough that they have to give up their child...whom they raised since day one....whom they love with all their heart.
I just wish this system dies out some day, and no sister has to suffer because of this.
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Rhia - Talaq not only is emotionally unbearable and devastating, its got its own set of accompanied problematic consequences as well sis...
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but fulfilling demand is a never ending story. next time they will ask for something else/more. its better that they be said bye-bye, adios.
kehne ko Allah ne ham ko ashraf-ul-makhlooqat banaya hae…
