chupateye hein?
kyoon?
share if you like?
best,
Dushwari
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Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
never got really dukhi…but if i did, i would hide it
dont want others to geth dukhi for me
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
guilty… 
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If it's something I can take care of myself, then Yes, I hide it and try to do something about it. But if it's something in which I feel that I need help of others, then I only share it with those that can help me
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
bilkul chhupaata hoon!!
kiun ? dat is a good question, sometimes u don want others to be sympathizin to u and u figure that there is nothing that could be done by others so wats the point of tellin n e one :k:
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thanks everyone. all sound so true and good.
the thing is if life is so focused on having somebody, apna, who one may want to share everything with, then how come people remain in this illusion that u can still make someone, parents, spouse, children, grand parents, siblings and trusted colleagues or friends, be your close social support circle & yet one is not truthful or hides the way one is feeling.
the worst thing is that when people are emotionally destroyed and they don’t know when to open up and whom to trust.
part of the problem is that people are unaware of their own inner state of concrete and sure footed resolve to think one way and then stick with it.
eventually, a person who is beaten up by times and misgivings of others who he trusted but were in fact fake and harmful to him, is neither able to gain acceptance nor avoid rejection for sympathy as he is dissolved in a painful cycle of hidden self.
i think, there are things in this world and in our lives that must not be hid for educative purpose of sharing the challenge one is overcoming or did overcome (with humility and honesty throughout) or good things which one is doing to stay sane and cope effectively, by not keeping a smile on your face that is hiding your sadness.
it does not mean that one should not be joyous at all. but a peace within can only be made, when one is a) able to know exactly what one wants and b) accept own part in having got a sad feeling because of one's wrong action or inaction or because of unfair behavior of others to one's self.
then, the baggage of dukh wont have to be carried all along.
and in stead, after that closure, it will be safely stored away in deep memory.
it is not a way to seek pity for sounding somebody hit hard by bad luck.
nor does it mean that one would have to leave all personal effort and not get one self out of life's disappointments and sad, unfair and unjust happenings to oneself.
the expectation of people who hide their feelings os regret, sadness, and realization, is even more bad for them and for those whom they have hurt.
only if people will know what is on their mind and then be able to truthfully state to unburden their own hearts and possibly come up with a solution with trusted others, lives of most people will become much easier and livable.
any thoughts on this?
best,
Dushwari
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
i am a cry baby
and I shout and cry and throw things around 
when I am sad or angry - this keeps the madam in control 
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
james bhaand bhai, yeye tow bhabi kee baraee heye, aap ko pal rahee hein.
best,
Dushwari
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
yes i do..:)
no1 ever knows if i am hurt or dukhi....and i hide it very well...ppl hu are RLY close to me....cant even tell....
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
:k: kisi ko kiun butaya jaye
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
dukh, i prefer to deal with it myself.
i only let out when someone makes me really mad :D
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I share my problems with my friends, but not my 'dukh'. Why should i spoil some one else day too :)
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Well I try not to show it, magar chehre pe toh dikhta hai na keh mein dukhi hoon!!!!:(
Then everyone starts asking : Kya hua beta??? itni udaas kyun lag rahi ho?!!!!
So no point tryin to hide it...............ppl eventually find out!!!
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
What do we mean by dukh?
Is it lies, manupliation and betrayal? Or;
loneliness?
Re: kiya aap apneye dukh
because you'll end up making someone that you care about look bad, if it involves that person
sigh
:(