Re: kismat
PCG,
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erhaps the original poster (OP) should clarify a few things on her own. I dont speak for her. But when some girl is unsatisfied with her relationship and then talks about how other girls are in better relationships - the mentality is not as you described it. She's not necessarily saying "Hey - look at that couple - that's how I want us to be - and you as a guy need to make yourself into that guy over there".
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You opinions about mentality do not matter in this case. The OP wrote and I requote, "'but i cant understand when i see other guys running after gurls , calling them , spending fortunes on them,* dat y is this not the case with me*'''.
This type of attitude is self-destructive in the long run. I know that breakups can be pretty messy, but I am sick and tired of people just going along with the party involved and generally pulling up an extremely sympthetic facade.
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She mentions how this guy she broke up with was talking about her to his other friends, and how he was letting his friends be privy to information pertaining to their relationship. I don't think that's a guy worthy of a relationship to begin with.
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Hmm, I would like to hear if the OP didnt 'talk' to HER friends about their relationship. And why exactly is it wrong to discuss relationships with mates? I am not surprised at your views though.
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Maturity has to come from the male as well. If a girl is not seeing that kind of maturity in the guy she's interested in, then its best she move on and focus on her own life. That is what my point is. Now how is that a bad thing?
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Certainly not a bad thing and I do believe I have emphasized this in at least two of my last three posts. If OP would have been a guy instead of a girl then my response would have been similar too. Unlike you I don't believe that one gender is necessarily better or worse then the other.
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And yes, No. X. If you guys were a bit more man about the way you people act around females and the way you treat females, then I would totally encourage girls to go out there and find a relationship and take the iniative. But the fact of the matter is that most guys are NOT of that stature. So you people want to disrespect women? Fine. Then you also have to do the work to get a good girl.
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See PCG, you are generalizing again. This is a habit you just can't seem to give up. A lot of guys are assholes only their to tap some ass. (not that I believe there is anything wrong with legitimately tapping some ass) But as many girls can also be accused of being snobbish bitches and dramaqueens. FAULTS CAN LIE WITH BOTH PARTIES, and in many cases the blame can be pretty squarely distributed. I repeat, girls and guys are both equally culpable (specially in a culture like United States where a measure of equality between men and women has been established) Going by the MEN EVIL RARRR HURR stereotype only tips people off.
Unless you get rid of this intrinsicly hostile attitude towards the male gender I don't think any constructive dialogue with you is possible. Even most of your good points get lost in the usual uberfeminazi bull**** you serve.
Also, Pakistan men aren't the end of the world. As long as they know you will only be interested in them, they will remain smug in their own importance. Once the latch is open though and they realize they have competitiors they will be more aimable to change. :p
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