Kindly help

[dildirani]

Re: Kindly help

He is meeting her brother in law and sister, hence the advice:smack:

[diwana]

@dildirani

He is meeting her brother in law and sister, hence the advice:smack:

You did not specify if your advice was based on his meeting with her family.

Regardless, it is futile for him to pursue further unless the detail of this meeting is revealed(why, where and its agenda etc.) or ANY other situation changes.

[redvelvet]

@dildirani

He is meeting her brother in law and sister, hence the advice:smack:

Hey DDR!!! (long time, no see)

The OP mentioned that he’s meeting the girl’s brother and BIL…(not the sister from what I understood). My gut feeling is that this meeting will not be a productive one…at least not for the OP. My hunch is that they’ll tell him to back off.

[Hassan007]

Feel for you buddy totally. I've had somewhat similiar story. BUT i guess i hate to say this..let her go man. Insha'allah you will be able to find someone else. I was told that everything happens for a reason. So here it is..life. I miss my ex-love now.

[korn666]

Re: Kindly help

she loves you and she got engaged

That's why I hate this kinda love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[zobia]

Re: Kindly help

lol. they will beat the hell out of you. i will suggest leave her. in fact create impression on the BIL and BIL's brother that you are not interested in her...so not only she start hating you but also live her married life happily.

cuz the fact is her parents wont let her marry to you in any case.

ps. why did the girl agree to be in a relationship with you when she knows that her parents wont let her marry outside her caste?

[Morning_Sky]

@CM

Well meet with them and then decide what to do. Frankly that is one ****ed up situation. She is engaged. This is not a bollywood movie where you ride in rescue the girl live happily every after.

hmmm surely dud i m gonna meet them. meeting with them is not tough for me. i m just looking forward for the ways to convince them...... and surely i will ride not to rescue but for marriage. keep praying

[Morning_Sky]

@ria1328

*You're gonna make things harder for her. Let her go. *

u r rite. things will go harder but its most hard to bear her with some body else in such relationship for both.

[Morning_Sky]

@redvelvet

I don't have a good feeling about this meeting. I hope it's not a meeting where they try to dhamki you into staying away from her.

If her family/parents don't allow marriages outside of caste.....I wonder how different would the views of the brother/BIL be from her parents. If the parents are adamant about this rishta....and this girl can't/won't stand up....then there's little that can be done.

yes there is v little to do but i want to do that perfectly.

[Morning_Sky]

@redvelvet

I don't have a good feeling about this meeting. I hope it's not a meeting where they try to dhamki you into staying away from her.

If her family/parents don't allow marriages outside of caste.....I wonder how different would the views of the brother/BIL be from her parents. If the parents are adamant about this rishta....and this girl can't/won't stand up....then there's little that can be done.

yes there is v little to do but i want to do that perfectly. then that will be most

[Decent_6Chora]

Re: Kindly help

love howa...aab yee na pochoo k kub howa....

[Morning_Sky]

@Hulahoop_Queen

She should've spoken up before her engagement. I mean you are meeting her fam now too, arent you? why couldnt this be done prior to her engagment? If things are going to get tough for her and her elder sis due to this situation, I would say you should try n move on. I mean, you should go ahead and meet up with her fam, and that would be trying your best...if things don't get anywhere after that, then it would be time to let go.

intelligent... thanks

and before her engagment domestic atmosphere was not appropriate on that time. we were in wait and watich situation

[Morning_Sky]

@soundarya

Is she still staying in contact with you after her engagement and telling you that she loves you, wants to marry you? Because you said that she gave up on you, so it makes no sense for her to stay in contact with you and say such things. If she is doing that, then I’m sorry, but that girl has no shame- to continue leading you on like that, telling you she loves you, not fighting for you, and being engaged to someone else. You seriously want to be with someone like that?

If her brother and sister know about the relationship and are older, they could have supported you before. The older sister would try to prevent the engagement from happening because it can affect her own home. IMO, the sister and brother have told your girl to move on and want her to marry her fiance. Her brother and BIL, two men, are going to meet you… I’m not getting a good feeling. They’re likely going to tell you stay away from the girl. And if they say that, have some self-respect, tell them to tell her to stop contacting you so you can move on.

:k:

In fact she has not give up before her family. she has just spoken to me alot of problems ( his father’s health He is suffering throgh headic , and her eldest sister domestic problems will be open up ). She has fear of such kind of things but she does crying for me as well.
She is double minded yet. she cant go away from me where as her family will suffer through this.
Her eldest sister asked her that she could have told her before then they wud have done some thing about this. but unfortunatly we couldn’t do this becaz we looking for suitable situation and that didnt come yet.

[Zamana]

Re: Kindly help

just because she's engaged does not mean she "let you go". Girls are different than guys. If her sister and brother-in-law know about you two then they should step in and say something otherwise it's better for a girl to break an engagement than a guy. She needs to break it other than that you can't do anything.